Do you find yourself in a situation where someone else is making you feel uncomfortable in terms of their sexual ideas or intent?
Are you starting to feel scared or worthless in the company of this person?
If this sounds familiar, you may be falling victim to sexual emotional manipulation.
Always an unhealthy situation
Sex and emotional manipulation is always an unhealthy and possibly dangerous situation.
The fact is that emotional manipulation can hold a person psychologically captive. What makes this kind of manipulation even more dangerous is that the person being manipulated might not even be aware that they’re being manipulated.
When another person or partner starts playing manipulative sexual games with you, it should be a red flag and a warning sign that the relationship or the sexual intent of the person may be warped and dysfunctional.
A skilled emotional manipulator will try to gain your trust, and will then slowly make sure they break down your self-worth and self-esteem until you start feeling worthless. You may start doubting yourself and your decisions.
In a sexual relationship, this creates a severe power imbalance. If you’re in a situation like this, you’re most likely slowly entering into an abusive sexual relationship.
Initially, it might be difficult to determine whether you’re in a relationship where you’re being emotionally manipulated with sex.
Look for the following red flags:
- The person often lies about their sexual expectations or changes their expectations to something that might seem unfair or unrealistic to you.
- The person often spins the facts regarding your sex life to change your perspective. In this way, he or she can covertly or overtly intimidate you. For example, the person may use the following phrase: “If you don’t have sex with me tonight, I’ll leave you or I’ll have sex with someone sexier.” This kind of person is a master in “guilt tripping”, and will make sure you feel bad about yourself if you don’t meet their sexual needs.
- The person projects blame and plays the victim. He or she rarely takes responsibility for their inappropriate behaviour and choices.
Source: Health24.com