When it comes to your partner’s sexual history there is a huge list of must-ask and must-let-go questions. While we totally vouch for not drilling him or her about details of their past relationships, when it comes to your present sex life, you have every right to know what you partner has been doing, as it is going to directly affect you. Sure, there are some things that you can, and also must let go of, but there is no shame in asking your partner about details that are going to make an impact on your life. If you are planning to take the relationship to a more serious zone, we suggest sitting down and openly having a discussion about these things.
1. Sexual history
Maybe you don’t need to grill your partner about the exact number of times they’ve had sex, but asking questions like whether or not they’ve ever paid for sex, or had sex with a person of the same gender, is important.
2. Sexual diseases
This is a must-ask question! Apart from knowing their health charts, you also need to ask if they are willing to go in for a sexual health test if that’s what you want.
3. Willingness to experiment
We all have fantasies and it is only fair to know if your partner is up for them. You can ask them if they are okay with pushing boundaries when it comes to getting down and dirty, and if not, then why.
4. Sexual expectations
This might be awkward at first (take the help of our good friend, a glass of sangria) but asking them about what gets them going and what turns them off is a necessary conversation. You need to be on the same page when it comes to sexual desires, and while it doesn’t have to be a whole yes or no kind of session, you can always work these questions into a conversation.
5. Cheating
No one really wants to go there especially when your relationship is just starting and things are so rosy, but ask your partner what according to them constitutes of cheating. A lot of people don’t consider making out, or oral sex as an actual sexual activity and if you do, then you need to be telling them.
6. Protection
Are you willing to take the pill? Is he ready to use a condom? You need to talk about these things rather than wait for that one drunken night where you both end up having unprotected sex only to panic the next morning.
Source: iDiva.com