Many say that texting and IM-ing are aspects of modern dating that make relationships a nightmare. However, they have made communicating with people easier, and reveal many tell-tale signs of where a relationship is headed very early on in a relationship. So, the way a person behaves while texting or messaging you when you’ve just started dating says a lot about whether they like you. Here, we list eight texting behaviour patterns that are deal breakers, and should ideally earn a guy zero texts back from you!
1. If he is being monosyllabic, then don’t force a conversation.
It’s pretty obvious that one-word replies are not exactly declarations of passion. However, crushes can make us delusional, and push things just to get a response. If all he texts you is stuff like “lol,” “What’s up,” or random emojis, he’s not that into you. Don’t dignify his “yes,””no,” and “okay” with a reply.
2. Don’t forgive the long silences and “read” receipts that go unanswered.
If you are messaging him repeatedly and he isn’t replying, stop texting him. At the very beginning of a relationship, people don’t get busy enough to not reply for long periods at a time. Chances are, he is just not interested in you and is leaving you hanging by saying he is busy because that way, he can keep options open, and absolve himself of blame.
3. Him never making plans or initiating anything is a red flag.
Any person who likes someone will try their best to meet them or talk to them. The key word here is mutual-so, if he never initiates a conversation, and you’re constantly trying to introduce new topics, or think of date ideas, stop. It is neither the man nor the woman’s job to constantly make the effort- both are responsible.
4. Try to observe a pattern; does he only text when he needs something from you?
If you like being the dependable girl he only turns to for something he needs, then great. But, know that a guy who likes you for real, will text you all the time, and not just when he wants sex, or help with something. Soon, you might become the shoulder to cry on that he turns to when he wants to whine about the other women in his life.
5. Don’t text him back if he just wants nudes.
This is a no-brainer, but if you are uncomfortable with sharing a dirty picture, and are doing it to get a guy to like you, chances are he’s a dick. There’s no need to text him back and entertain his inappropriateness.
6. If he’s into you when he is bored, but forgets about you when his friends are back in town, ditch him.
There’s no point pursuing a person who uses you to pass his free time. So, stop making yourself available and responding like an eager puppy every time he is bored enough to have time to text you. A man who likes you will obviously be around constantly because he is excited to share his life with you. Ask yourself: what will you when you need someone and he isn’t there because he doesn’t care?
7. Texting him gives you anxiety.
If having a conversation with him is fraught with nervousness, then you shouldn’t waste time texting him. Plus, if talking to him leaves you feeling underwhelmed or sadder than before then don’t get too excited. Sometimes, there is a communication gap, and a difference in the way people feel about each other. He might not be the life-affirming love you have always thought of finding in life.
8. If he uses words like “bitch,” “slut” and aggressive language towards you.
Someone who gets so aggressive at the very beginning of a relationship is someone you shouldn’t text back. If he calls you a bitch for not texting back, or a slut while you are sexting, it’s not okay. A man who has just met you, cannot and should not speak to you that way, till you have established the fact that your relationship has reached a level of comfort where you both agree that those words are okay. It is a red flag that he is possessive and territorial, so don’t sugar coat such behaviour thinking that it’s just a sign that he is a simple guy with no filter.
Source: iDiva.com