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9 Things that affect your ability to orgasm

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If you have so few orgasms you wonder if you’re stuck with a defective parts, you’re not alone. According to Planned Parenthood, roughly one in three women have trouble with the whole orgasm thing, leaving many feeling broken and ripped off — not to mention exhausted after fake O performances so Oscar worthy we even fool ourselves.

Unfortunately, there are oodles of annoying things that can get in the way of a woman’s O skills, including:

1. Your smartphone

“When your bedroom is full of noise — texting, emails, piles of papers and other reminders you have a life beyond your orgasm, it makes it harder to have one,” says relationship expert April Masini. Lose the electronics and make your boudoir a tech-free, stress-free zone.

2. Your vagina

Or rather, your relationship with it: Research shows the quality of your orgasms is linked to how you feel about your vagina — and your body in general. “Many women are so obsessed with body perfection that instead of having a great time in bed, they’re worried about the angles and the lighting he’s seeing you in,” says Masini. “Who has time for an orgasm when you’re too busy directing and styling your sex life — as it’s happening?” When you’re in bed, focus your attention completely on what’s happening between the sheets. Everything else can wait.

3. Your hormones

“A hormonal imbalance is a surefire way to kill your libido,” says women’s health expert Sally Kravich, Ph.D. Check with your doctor if you feel this is the case, and in the meantime Kravich recommends focusing on a nutritious diet and avoiding stimulants like junk foods and artificial drinks, which will get you all hot and bothered — and not in a good way.

4. Your expectations

According to Dr. Alice Hucker, clinical psychologist and sex therapist, only a minority of women can orgasm from penetration alone. (Greeeat.) “Most women need additional clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, whether that be during intercourse, oral sex or manual sex,” says Hucker. In other words, it’s time to put in some OT with your SO.

5. Being too relaxed

For real. It’s a thing. “While relaxation is an important ingredient in good sex, women can be too relaxed and not realize that certain muscles need to be worked to reach climax,” says Hucker, including grinding your hips, squeezing your thighs together, pointing your toes and clenching your pelvic floor muscles.

6. Exhaustion

“It’s hard to get in the mood when all you want to do is sleep,” says Kravich. “Set time aside for yourself on a daily basis to relax, receive, and replenish.” Making “me time” a regular thing will give you the energy boost necessary to get frisky with your partner (and you know, enjoy it).

7. Fear

We are women, hear us roar and all that, but your fear of losing control in the moment can hold your mind and body back from a grand finale. “An orgasm is referred to as ‘the little death’ in France because it’s a powerful experience,” says Hucker. “It’s not uncommon for women to simultaneously want to reach orgasm and also fear the experience of losing herself in the moment.” Face. Meet palm.

8. No instruction manual

If you’re not familiar with how your equipment works or what specifically revs your engine, how can you expect your partner to? “Women who know their bodies well and have experimented with ways to make themselves orgasm are better equipped to teach a lover how to make sex more pleasurable and how to help her reach climax,” says Hucker.

9. Stage fright

“Many women can get ‘psyched out’ by focusing too much on reaching orgasm, instead of enjoying the sexual experience,” says Hucker. Ironically, if having an orgasm is the only goal on your mind during your romp in the sack, your mind and body become too tense to get there — so you know, stop it.

Source: SheKnows

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Ugandan Millenials are Ghosting out of Relationships

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Gone are the days when boyfriends and girlfriends would sit down and agree to end a relationship. Now, Ugandan millenials have changed the trends. They are just ghosting.

According to research, Ugandan couples no longer suffer with breakup lines. “He simply stops talking to you. He stops replying your messages. Then you just figure out that the relationship is done,” says one of the victims of ghosting.

According to older generations, ghosting is a cowardly way of ending relationships. But it turns out millenials are also ghosting at jobs. “You employ them, they work for some months then they just stop showing up. Next thing you know they moved on to another job. It is unprofessional,” says a human resource director.

Let us hear from you. Have you been ghosted? Have you ghosted before?

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How to Attract the Opposite Sex Effortlessly

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Do you want to know how you can become more attractive to the opposite gender and catch all the attention? Grooming tips and great clothes can make you look good, but to be attractive to others around you requires something completely different. Find out here.
Love Yourself

Nothing is as attractive as someone who is completely comfortable with the way they look and who they are. Believe in yourself and that you are worth everything that comes your way.

Think Positive

View the glass as half full. Compliment and remind yourself to do it and you’ll see the results in no time. The ability to see the good in everything not only makes your life easier, it gives a spring in your step and adds to your charm.

Indulge Yourself

Forget about your diet at least one day in a week and treat yourself to some creamy Belgian dark chocolate ice cream. Step out from under your umbrella and dance in the rain. The ability to let loose and not worry about the reactions of others makes you shine.

Keep an Active Social Life

We are, as a species, social in nature. We love to be with our fellow humans and take great pleasure in social groups, so throw off those comfy tracks and go out no matter how tired or lazy you feel. Once you get there, the fatigue will vanish, leaving you with a sparkle in your eye. Seeing someone having fun with their friends is hot!

Don’t Think About the Competition

It’ll just bring you down. People tend to underestimate themselves, which is good in a few ways, but always keep in mind that you have a few traits that no one else has, and this sets you apart.

Smile

It’s scientifically proven that smiling and laughing release endorphins that make you feel happier. Not only does it give you a mood booster but it makes you look more approachable and not intimidating in the least, so people will be more open to coming up to you.

Be Mysterious

You have to leave the opposite gender guessing. That’s part of the fun and leaves them wanting more.

Be Able to Laugh at Yourself

Whether you have spinach in your teeth or whether you fell down the stairs, if you stop and think about it, it is funny. So laugh and watch how many people warm up to you.

Make “Me Time”

Everyone needs to spend at least half an hour a day by themselves. Meditate, reflect on the day or just relax. It’ll do you a world of good. Deal with all your work beforehand and spend some time by yourself before you turn in, so you can fall asleep and wake up with a sunny, happy aura that others would love to share.

You see, being an attractive person with loads of sex appeal is easy, as long as you remember that it is more about yourself, your happy aura and your confidence than anything else.

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The Top 12 Qualities Men Want in a Woman

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She is family oriented.
Before I get heat from people who say that not everyone is close to their family and that doesn’t make them a bad person or whatever – that goes without saying. Let’s keep in mind that I speak from my own perspective and to me, a woman who values both her and my family is important when considering a long term future. I’m sure most men who someday want a family of their own would agree with me.

She is kindhearted.
I’m not quite sure how to explain this one. I feel like just the word ‘kindhearted’ in itself gets the point across. A woman who is thoughtful. Loving. Caring. Who does small things for you for no other reason that she loves you (as you do for her). A woman who, when she smiles at you, gives you no choice but to smile back. A woman who radiates warmth from her heart. That is a woman a man would want to marry.

She is intellectually challenging.
There is no denying that someone’s looks are what initially draws us to them. It’s difficult to spot a great personality from across the room. Many a fling was built on physical attraction alone, but how long can it last?

When conversations lack depth or intrigue, we often fill our time with physical activity together, but it is impossible to build a real connection or lasting relationship with someone on that alone. Being intellectually challenging and having the ability to hold real discussions about meaningful topics, will always trump shallow beauty in the long run.

She is understanding and empathetic.
Being compassionate, supportive, and encouraging towards your partner is a huge part of building a successful relationship. Nobody wants a person who is a “Debbie Downer” all the time and will not support them in their endeavors or their times of need. Life is full of challenges that any couple will face together, particularly a married couple. Sometimes men need a shoulder to cry on, too.

She is ambitious.
In addition to supporting and encouraging you pursuing your own goals and dreams, she will have her own as well. A mature woman has a vision for her future and chases after it with voracity.

A mature woman will be someone you can take on the world with. A partner in crime, a teammate in your relationship, and in life.

She is consistent.
Being consistent is a valuable virtue because it lets your partner know that you really are who you are. You haven’t sent your “representative” to get to know them during the first couple of months of dating, but then suddenly transform once they’ve committed themselves to you.

To clarify the point, think of consistency as the opposite of volatility. If someone is unpredictable and volatile, it’s difficult to know how they will be acting towards you on a certain day, and that gets old no matter how aesthetically pleasing she is.

She is willing to put in effort for you.
I am all about giving in relationships. I believe seeing your significant other happy should also make you happy – but it is important to understand that it goes both ways.

Her putting in effort doesn’t have to be much. It can be something as simple as slipping the waiter her debit card to pay for dinner. It’s no secret that sometimes the romance wears off of longer term relationships, but you shouldn’t let it – and neither should she.

If a woman continues to do what she knows attracted you in the first place, even after she got you a long time ago, it shows she cares about keeping you around.

Side note: Equally as important is to make sure both teammates always show the other their appreciation for this effort. Feeling taken for granted can easily lead to resentment and other negative results in a relationship.

She holds similar values as you.
This is often an extension of the family-oriented point in the beginning, because many times our value system comes from our upbringing. The things we find important (or not), the things we believe in strongly (or not), the way we treat others, and ourselves. It doesn’t matter how attracted you are to someone or even how well you get along, if your values don’t align, you will always be clashing in the long term.

Physical attractiveness.
Sorry, but it has to be said. The good news is, every man is attracted to a different type of woman and has his own personal tastes. Meaning, I am in no way suggesting a woman has to fit a certain image of ‘beauty’ in order to be considered ‘wife material.’ But, as is true for both men and women, there needs to be a physical attraction between two partners to kick off a relationship, which also plays an important part in holding it together.

She is friendly and sociable.
I know, at least for me, I enjoy being social and I love having my girlfriend by my side. So, naturally, we will find ourselves together out at events or even just bumping into people at a restaurant or bar. No man wants to be worried about the attitude his girlfriend or wife is going to give to the friend he is trying to introduce her to. He doesn’t want her to turn up her nose or be short with them – it is important that as his teammate in life, she is his teammate in all areas of life.

It is important for a couple to be able to be playful and joke around with each other. It helps lighten the mood, makes extended periods of time together more fun, and laughing together never gets old.

She is loving and affectionate.
This is more of a bonus point. It may not need to be said, because a few of the points above just direct back to someone being loving in general, anyway. But, I think it’s important to state just the same.

For me, affection is important. Holding hands, hugs, just being physically close together. It symbolizes a connection. It’s a warm, loving feeling, and I would have a hard time building a long-term relationship with a woman who shrugs off your arm when you put it around her or always feels ‘separate’ from me.

Needless to say, every man likely has a different ‘checklist’ for what he is looking for in the woman that he would consider potentially making his wife someday, but my instinct tells me one would be hard-pressed to find a guy who didn’t agree with the points listed here.

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