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6 signs your partner is going to break up with you

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You thought you were doing pretty great, didn’t you? You felt that this relationship was going to be the one that would actually last till the end. You were so sure that this person was the one! You really thought this was special, that this was different. You really thought they wouldn’t be like all the others. So when that person actually broke up with you, when that relationship along with all your hopes and dreams came crashing down, and when that one person you loved and trusted the most in the world just decided to tear your heart apart into tiny little pieces, then you might have ended up being a little shocked to say the least.

But no matter how much you deny it, no matter how much you drive yourself crazy trying to come up with reasons over why it all happened and no matter how shocking the whole situation feels at the moment, the fact of the matter still remains that breakups rarely happen so randomly and out of the blue. They rarely come without any warning signs whatsoever. And they are rarely so hard to predict. There are always signs, some subtle and some not so subtle ones, before it finally happens. So if you want to avoid all the shock and maybe even beat your partner to it, look out for these signs that your partner is probably going to break up with you soon:

1. Their behavior has changed

All of us go through tough times in life; the times when we don’t feel like ourselves anymore, the times when all human interaction feels forced and unnecessary, and the times when we get so disconnected even from the people we love most. But if someone’s behavior with you changes too drastically for an uncannily long period of time and without any obvious reason, then it is likely that the problem isn’t just their life.

Such a behavioral change can come in various forms that you might have never experienced with them before. They might become very passive-aggressive or they might reduce their communication or they might even start excluding you from all their plans. They don’t reply to your text messages or calls as quickly as they used to or they rarely show any kind of affection towards you, whether through technology or in person. Their responses to simple questions seem rude or agitated and their persona is just generally alienating towards you. You can’t even remember the last time they told you that they loved you.

So you try to rationalize it. You can come up with a thousand excuses to justify all their unreasonable actions. And you can make yourself believe that it’s just temporary. But at the back of your mind, you do know that’s just not true. You do know that things have gotten bad before but they have never gotten this weird, awkward and uncomfortable. Because of the way they’re acting, the distance you feel between the two of you, even when they’re right next to you, isn’t something you ever felt before. And you do know that something about their behavior is just unacceptably, and horribly wrong.

2. They have become emotionally distant

Now this one is hard to point out. The reason for this is that you can’t actually force someone or question a person over why they don’t say ‘I love you’ anymore or why they never talk about the way they actually feel with you or why they just don’t seem to let you in anymore. You realize that the cause behind their emotional detachment might not even be directly linked to you in any way. It might be because of some family problem, stress at work or some personal life crises. But the fact that they don’t feel like sharing their problems or feelings with you anymore is a cause for concern in itself. It may be a temporary phase where they don’t share, but if they continue to hide what goes on in their mind, it is definitely a warning sign.

It’s not like you haven’t tried. You’ve tried your hardest to be your absolute best around them, and not to give them any kind of extra stress in life. You’ve tried to ask them a thousand times over if you could help them in any way. You’ve tried to be their source of support in all the good times and the bad. You’ve tried to break through the indestructible wall that they’ve seemed to build around them but nothing seems to work. Nothing you say or do allows them to let you in.

And you can’t help but remember all the hard times you’ve faced together before. You remember everything like it was just yesterday. You remember that no matter how bad their life was going, no matter what amount of stress they had and no matter what kind of problems they were facing, you had always been the first person they talked to, the only person who could make them feel better, and the only person who had the ability to relieve all their stress! So this new indifference of theirs just leaves you wondering a ton of questions: Why am I unable to make them feel better? Why don’t they just open up to me? Am I not that person for them anymore?

3. They are always angry

Every couple unavoidably has fights and arguments. Yes, it’s perfectly healthy and normal. Most of those fights actually end up strengthening your relationship. But you have to be very careful with keeping this outlook over all your fights. You have to analyze and decide if your fights are actually happening because your partner truly cares or if they just keep happening because of your partner’s unreasonable irritation towards you. If you feel like your partner is always looking for a reason to fight, if everything that comes out of your mouth seems to annoy them and drive them crazy, and if they are always starting pointless arguments only to leave them hanging in the middle, then this kind of situation is definitely not normal. Their constant angry behavior might be the result of some resentment they feel towards you or the relationship in general or maybe it’s just a result of the guilt they feel because of the impending breakup.

But all their anger and all their indifference didn’t ever break you down. You tried to talk it out. You tried to come up with reasons in your head on why they might be acting this way. You tried to be rational about it even when they were behaving their absolute worst. And you even took the blame and apologized for some things that weren’t your fault in the first place. But nothing you do, no amount of understanding, no amount of apologies, and no amount of talking has helped you get them back to normal or stop their unreasonable anger or made them realize their mistakes in any way.

4. They have started to maintain a physical distance

Physical affection in a relationship is a reflection of how you feel about your partner, inside. This is especially true in the first few months of your relationship when you two could never keep your hands off each other in private, and when you always seemed to be looking for reasons to touch each other even when you were in other people’s company. This is the time when every couple’s emotions are running high, and their feelings of lust even higher. But the actual test comes after these first few months. Will you be able to maintain that level of intimacy even when your relationship has passed some time? Will you still look at each other in that same loving way even when the initial excitement of having this new person in your life has ended? Do you still look for reasons to touch each other all the time? Can you still feel the kind of passion for each other that you always felt in the very beginning?

If the answer to all the above questions is a straight no, if the physical distance between you has grown as much as the emotional one, and if you’ve noticed that your partner never even holds your hand anymore, let alone initiate sex, then something is horribly wrong. You’ve tried to confront them about it. You’ve tried to switch things around in the bedroom. You’ve tried to come up with all sorts of ideas just to re-ignite the spark you had in the start. And you’ve tried desperately to get their interest back in any way possible and by all means necessary. But you’ve failed at almost everything! And even after all these efforts and all this desperation, if you still feel like things have reached the point where you can’t remember the last time you shared a truly intimate moment together, then your partner has definitely lost interest. Either they’re cheating on you or they’re ready to just leave

5. They’ve become indifferent

When you’re in a relationship, you go through all sorts of experiences together. You love to the point of no return, you kiss like it might be the last time and you even have horrible fights where you’re left wondering if you’ll make it through. But the difference between all those previous fights and what you’re experiencing right now is clearer than crystal! All those fights were always a result of your unending love and passion for each other. All those fights, no matter how bad they got, still made you feel like this person cares very deeply about the relationship. And all those fights were always the ones that eventually brought you two even closer together. But this one’s not like that, is it? This isn’t even a fight. You thought this was a temporary rough patch but it can hardly even be called temporary anymore. This is something more, something even worse than the horrible fights, something that makes your stomach tie up into knots, and something that makes you question how or whether you both will ever be able to come out of this stronger.

So just take out some time and think about it! If your relationship has reached a point where you feel like you’re the only one who loves, the only one who wants to kiss and the only one who even wants to fights, then your partner probably doesn’t really care anymore. They don’t care about where this relationship is going. They don’t care about how horrible all their actions are making you feel. They don’t care if all of the time, efforts and commitment which you both placed into this relationship just go to waste. They don’t care enough to resolve the problems. They don’t even care if you stick around! And maybe, just maybe, that was actually the plan all along, the plan to just drive you to a point of no return, to make you the sole decision maker in this breakup, and to ultimately end up feeling less guilty about it all.

6. The little moments are gone

They don’t agree to go for long walks together anymore. They don’t look for reasons to constantly touch you. They never call you just to let you know how much they miss you. They don’t surprise you with your favorite chocolates anymore. They don’t plan or execute any new and exciting things for you both to try out together. They don’t act like their crazy, goofy self just to see you smile, the smile they always promised they would be the reason for. And they’re not interested in spending a whole day cuddling and just talking in bed. All these little moments, the moments that brought you closer together, the moments that defined the true beauty of your relationship and the moments that had kept the spark alive before, have been long gone.

When someone has stopped making that extra effort, when they’ve stopped putting in any thought towards the relationship, when they’ve stopped trying to make things special, and when they’ve stopped doing the little things that matter and bring you true happiness, then they probably feel like they have very little stakes left in keeping this relationship alive and running. There probably isn’t much that’s stopping them from leaving right this very minute. And sadly enough, it’s just a matter of time when even their mere presence in your life will only be a memory to you!

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Bae @31: Bad Black bosses with a seductive photo album at her 31st birthday

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By BigEyeUg Team

Whenever the annual calendar clocks to the 5th day of July, social media is buzzed with birthday wishes to Kampala City socialite, Shanitah Namuyimbwa alias, Bad Black.

Bad Black is fond of taking up the day in the news without anybody’s favour but instead on merit of possessing one of one of the highest numbers of following.

Today, Shanitah marks her 31st Anniversary in life and she has got to pomp it in style with a huge volume of photos where she appears at-ease with friends.

The photo album also features her cozy and imminent moments with boyfriend Sky West.

Bad Black and boyfriend, Sky West kiss

She has even run out of words to explain God’s blessings’ abundance to her and territory at an age of 31 because she looks better despite blooming a late age.

Lord am so grateful. 31yrs today it looks good on me. If you indeed bless me & in large my territory,” she wrote.

The mother to three is also astonished by her aging like fine wine and compares herself to an Egyptian goddess.

See how at 31yrs Aging like fine wine no competition but accept am Egyptian goddess,” Black adds.

Unlike her past birthdays where she has hyped the parties with glamorous designs and valuable gifts brought by friends and family, Bad Black is expected to celebrate this in a scientific way, owing to the COVID-19 pandemic.

Here is Bad Black’s full photo album;

Happy Birthday Bad Black!

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Guitarist Charmant Mushaga quietly suffering from depression after breakup with wife Sandra

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By BigEyeUg Team

It’s such a devastating moment for Prominent Congolese guitarist, Charmant Mushaga Buhendwa as he continues to trail his life through a heartbreak after his wife, Sandra Klonka dumping him.

This website has come to learn about the Uganda-based Zaire born musician’s marriage status after he went public to disclose how his relationship with the Hungarian woman doomed just within one year after their wedding.

The Afrigo Band instrumentalist’s revelation comes in after accumulating uncountable messages in his inbox, congratulating him upon his initial wedding anniversary, which in reality he didn’t achieve.

Today I decide to make it clear to all that knew and saw some changes that happened in my life on the 19th of June 2019.

This whole week I’ve been receiving messages in my inbox congratulating me for my first Wedding Anniversary,” he wrote.

In deep sorrow, he says that the matrimonial vows he made with Sandra on 19th June 2019, failed just after 4 Months from the wedding.”

Well on a sad note I regret to say that our marriage failed 4months after our wedding. It’s a long story but it is well,” he added.

Charmant also shared his love woe with Sandra on his WhatsApp status.

You were once my happiness and today you are my greatest sorrow, I wish I never met you, my heart would be at peace …….goodbye Sandra.

Charmant and Sandra got married in a civil suit at the Uganda Registration Services Bureau and had only one child together.

Keep strong Charmant!

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Salvado and wife Daphine showoff their baby for the first time

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By BigEyeUg Team

Babies are like little suns that, in a magical way, bring warmth, happiness and light into our lives.

Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.

Comedian Patrick Salvado and wife Daphine Frankstock are enduring the best moments of their marriage with newly born son, Alexander Idringi Dawa.

Salvado and wife Daphine

Daphine gave birth to baby Alexander was born on 1st July 2020, mid this week.

The couple has paraded a photo of their baby for the first time on-line.

Salvado, Daphine with baby Alexander

Salvado and Daphine have been such an adorable couple since they legalized their relationship in 2019.

With a new job at hand, the Ombokolo born comedian is eager to widely open his wallet, enticing his newly born baby and wife.

We will keep you posted.

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Jose Chameleone’s daughter, Ayla Mayanja graduates

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African music legendary Joseph Mayanja aka Jose Chameleone continues to prove unstoppable when it comes to heaping success in life.

For years now, his hard work and success are undisputed and blessings from God are continuously upon him.

Chameleone who has just of recent been celebrating his daughter Alba Shyne Mayanja’s first holy communion is yet again in barrows of jubilation as his eldest child, Ayla Onsea Mayanja graduates.

On receiving the good news, the self-proclaimed ‘Music doctor’ stormed social media and congratulated his daughter Ayla upon hitting the milestone.

Ayla Onsea Mayanja

He is also desperate to meet his daughter once the COVID-19 Pandemic lockdown is lifted.

Congratulations and enjoy your Graduation day my daughter #Ayla keep shining. See you soon when we breakdown the Lockdown,” wrote Jose Chameleone.

Ayla Onsea Mayanja is singer Jose Chameleone’s firstborn from his first love Griet Onsea a.k.a Dorotia. The two were together in 2002.

Jose Chameleone and the Belgian lady’s strong affection for each other is said to have started in Nairobi after the singer had recorded his first hit songs in his career.

The two relocated to Uganda where their bonding grew heftier and they were blessed with a baby Ayla.

Jose Chameleone and Dorotia during their hail days

Chameleone’s relationship was showy and a heaven mission for them to an extent of the singer recording a song dubbed ‘Dorotia’, hailing her above any other women on planet.

Regrettably, the relationship didn’t last that long for yet undisclosed reasons as they parted ways just immediately after Ayla was born.

This was followed by Dorotia’s repatriation back to her home country together with the baby Ayla.

Since then, the ‘Lord Mayor to-be’ has lived an overseas life away from his child with doomed hope of ever meeting her again in his life.

At the age of 18, Ayala’s focus is majorly into Art, Photography, Fashion and Design field where she developed strong adoration at her tender age.

She last resurfaced on social media when she was celebrating her 18th Birthday on 28th May 2020.

Congratulations Ayala!

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