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The Real Reasons Why women fall for people they shouldn’t be with

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A relationship is formed between two people who are attracted to each other in a romantic way. The key word here is ‘attracted’. This attraction might be emotional or physical but an attraction nevertheless. Over time, other feelings such as loyalty and commitment develop (or not), but the first thing is always attraction.

Now, what attracts us to the other person? What makes us think that what we have is genuine? It all depends upon our preference and since you’re reading this, your preference is toxic. Honestly, you don’t need to worry, about your partner maybe you kinda do but about yourself, you need not worry at all. You aren’t alone in your preference, a lot of people have the exact same preference as you do.

The problem is that no one really knows why they keep going back to someone whom they’re absolutely certain will break them. You may try to explain it to people who oppose the relationship, but they never really get it. These might be some reasons why:

1- You can relate to them:

Well, you might be considerably more “stable” but there’s just something about your partner that makes you see yourself in them. You think that they understand you and that you know exactly how they’re feeling.

I hate to break this to you, but you can’t relate to them. You can’t fully understand their problems nor can they fully understand yours. Different factors are in play for each of you. In no way am I saying that you should get out of the relationship and leave them alone with their problems. However, you need to realise that when a person has problems, they aren’t in a state to form a relationship. You need to give them care but it shouldn’t be as in a relationship.

A relationship requires mutual efforts but your partner needs to be in a state where until and unless they can deal with what they’re going through with your help.

2- You think you can help

This is probably the reason most people in a toxic relationship share. Honestly, if you think about it, it’s not so bizarre. You care about the person and you can notice that they’re emotionally unstable or have other issues and, in your mind, you’re only trying to help.

Don’t. Do not think that you can change any one. It’s not in your power to change someone without having the right experience dealing with people with such problems. You can’t document them and study their behaviour purely for the fact that you think you can help by changing them and not just because you want to understand them better. A human can not be your experiment.

You might shower them with affection as much as you can but at the end of the day, maybe they don’t want to change and maybe you shouldn’t try.

3- You think that it’s not them, it’s you:

When a relationship is breaking, people often take all the factors into consideration like conflicting time schedules, commitment problems or second guessing yourself. However, sometimes when your relationship is toxic, you change your entire perception of things, for the worst.

Your partner might make you think that it’s all you and you might even fight that thought for quite some time, but eventually you reach a point when you think that maybe they’re right.

How often can they be right and you be wrong? You can be blamed for some things but a relationship is based on mutual efforts and if the relationship is breaking then it can’t just be you. No matter what you might be led to believe

4- Others compel you to go back:

Honestly, this shouldn’t even be a reason but it actually might be one of the main ones! Let me just clarify that a relationship has two people and not more not less otherwise it won’t be a relationship.

When you break up with someone, you often go to someone for consolation, which is natural. However, sometimes your social circle is confined to people who would favor your partner over you and would reignite feelings which you had to suppress to break up with them in the first place and you’ll go back.

5- You think that what you two have is love:

Love is indescribable. Sometimes you might confuse love with attraction or you might think that what’s holding you in the relationship is love, even if it’s not. When you think that you love them but constantly second guess yourself, it isn’t love.

Whatever made you form a relationship isn’t there anymore and sometimes we’re just not ready to accept that. We think that staying in the relationship is the right thing to do since they love us. You need to realise that although love is indescribable, it surely isn’t about second guessing yourself.

All in all, people can’t be moulded as we want them to be. You can change certain things about them and them you, but everyone has baggage and some people might have more. Love can not really be defined perfectly in words. Hence, someone can’t explain their attraction towards someone toxic because, well, they can’t put it to words either.

Source: relrules.com

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Rema and Hamza show-off with fancy Iddi day celebrations, see photos

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Songstress Rema Namakula together with her newly married husband Dr. Hamza Sebunya are yet again an item grinding social media and becoming the main talk around town.

This follows Rema storming social media with conspicuous photos together with her husband, Hamza on Iddi Day, the photos which have since hit-hard to their tormentors.

The pics have also sent her ex-lover, Eddy Kenzo’s fans babbling with criticizing comments.

It has been Rema’s efforts and dream of having a relationship so good this far, that everyone is jealous of it.

The ‘Clear’ singer also believes that if you want a relationship that looks and feels like the most amazing thing on earth, you need to treat it like it is the most amazing thing on earth.

The lovely couple is closing-in to a one-year marriage anniversary since their glamorous ‘Kwanjula’ ceremony in November, 2019.

Rema and Hamza haven’t had a child yet together but their marriage is really fascinating and prove its their wish to have one and when.

Rema’s actions, words, music are undoubtedly provocative to her baby papa, Eddy Kenzo ever since they broke-up before she hooked herself a new man of her dreams, Hamza Sebunya.

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Rema surprises fans by wishing Lydia Jazmine a happy birthday

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Musician Rema Namakula always had a surprise for her fans. When people expect her not to do something, it is the very thing that she does. This always leaves her on the tongues of many.

The latest from Rema Namakula’s surprise docket is her humble birthday wishes to fellow singer Lydia Jazmine whose relationship with Rema’s ex-hubby Eddy Kenzo remains questionable to date.

It should be recalled that before Rema and Kenzo’s love affair hit rock bottom, the ‘Mugole’ and ‘Omalawo’ singer had established an imminent relationship together to a point of cracking suggestions from the public that they were indeed dating.

Here are some of the photos between Eddy Kenzo and Jazmine;

Rema’s move has since left majority of the public’s eyebrows risen and wondering what could be her motive behind this post.

Here are some of the screenshots of the comments from her post;

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Comedian Alex Muhangi showers fiancée, Prim with charming birthday message

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One of the most celebrated celebrity-couple in the country is labelled to be that of comedian, Alex Muhangi and radio host, Prim Asiimwe.

The two make such an appealing pair, inspirational and define that Love really fills our lives with sense.

Like its renown for ‘power couples’, Alex and Prim have overly chosen to love and support each other even in those moments when they struggle to like each other.

The Comedy Store CEO has always recounted Prim as a ‘sight for sore eyes’ and ‘hot dish’ that any man around the world would be desperate to have on his shoulder.

With this, it’s not a surprise that he solely stands to be the one delivering lovely birthday wishes to the Galaxy FM presenter.

In Alex’s adorable birthday words to Prim, he concedes that behind every great man is not a woman, she is beside him, she is with him, not behind him.

Read Alex Muhangi’s birthday message to lover Prim Asiimwe;

Today is more than just 24 hours to me.

My most intimate friend and mother of my child marks another year since her birth.

I join her to celebrate her life, the memories, the happiness she has breathed into my life ever since we crossed paths.

HBD Prim Asiimwe

For the love birds, magic is in the air and may they be blessed with lots of love and happiness.

Happy Birthday Prim!

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Sheebah Karungi shares heartwarming letter to her brother. Read it here!

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Songstress, Sheebah Karungi is one person who appreciates her brother’s love and protection.

Taking it to her social media with pride, Sheebah has poured out her heart for the unique man character in her life, cherishing his efforts in making her life gleeful.

She also gets down on her knees with thankfulness for the support rendered by some other few undisclosed men especially during this COVID-19 pandemic season.

Read Sheebah’s letter in full;

This gentleman here is saved as “Main man” in my phone for so many reasons! One of the things am so grateful for during this Quarantine is Time spent with the main men in my life including my favorite, My brother. 

I still can’t believe you tagged along with me for this birthday! I love how we are both invested in each other’s happiness.

We’ve both been so hard on ourselves because we’ve literally been working since, we were kids.

know it was needed as still needed because we still have a lot to accomplish but am glad, we are living a little more now.

Am in a very good place right now because so many reasons but mostly, the Love & support I get from the men in my life.

I don’t know what i would without you guys, thank you for loving me with no expectations.

Thank you for truly caring about my health & happiness, not so many people really care🥂 Mukama abankumire

For over the years, it has been unfamiliar for any man to receive such an intimate recognition and applause from Sheebah and with this message you can guess how important these are in her life.

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