By Our Writer
I don’t claim to be a master of the dating game, but I have been with a number of girls to be able to notice some patterns and draw conclusions. One of the things is called a “Window of Opportunity.”
With every Ugandan girl you meet, there is always going to be a window of opportunity in which anything between you and her can happen if you are really into it. Once the window of opportunity closes, it will always be hard for it to open again for you and that girl. Most probably it will be open to another guy but it won’t be open to you.
When I was at campus, I met a girl. It’s a number I stole from one of my friend’s Whatsapp contacts. Her DP photo was romantic and so was she in real life. But I blew up my window of opportunity. I presumed that she was so into me because she’s the one who went in for the kiss the first time we met. So I intentionally put her on the sidelines. We would meet, cuddle, kiss, do everything but without penetrative sex. She kept on pushing me to go for it but I felt like she should be one of my emergency plans. Then the Window of Opportunity passed. She begun getting busy. When we met, there was no more chemistry. She would always flake. She begun leaving my messages on “seen.” I couldn’t understand it at the time, but later on I discovered that I had blown up my window of opportunity. Once you blow up your window of opportunity with a Ugandan girl, it’s gone.
The other scenario happened many months before the previous one. I was busy one evening at a family gathering and out of the blue, this one hot girl calls me up saying we should finally meet that night. I told her to come in and join in the family party. Yet, when she heard that mother hen was also part of the party she chickened out and suggested that we go to my place or a bar. I insisted we go to her place.
At her place, she left me in the sitting area, went to her bathroom, changed into some hot pants and then called me to check out her bedroom. I knew this was the moment to escalate the kiss and then later on the bang. Instead I continued to play hard to get. As the norm is with most girls, I asked that she does me something to eat. This is how I test girls who I will be able to dominate. So she cooked and yes I knew I could now take my time to bang her. I love to bang after establishing some rapport with a girl because sex with a stranger always leaves me feeling bogus.
After the meal, it was now past midnight. She wondered if I was sleeping over. I said NO. My answer blew my window of opportunity. That is how I missed out on this awesome bang. For this one girl, my window of opportunity was for that night. Once I blew that night, that was all. All the times I have tried to make a similar sexual move, I have been rejected.
So what am I saying? Don’t blow up your window of opportunity when vibing a Ugandan girl. The window of opportunity may be that one night out at a club where you meet this babe. In that one night, the better option could be to suggest that you go with her back home instead of exchanging numbers. Because you may exchange numbers and then later you realize that the girl who gave you the number is receptive from the one on the phone right now.
Your window of opportunity may be that one moment when a girl decides to visit you at your place. If you convince yourself that there’s always another time, you may find it hard to ever bring her back to your place.
The first thing you must be aware of the moment you begin vibing a Ugandan girl is when your window of opportunity starts and when it ends. Once it ends, the best you can do is count your losses as early as possible because any further trials to open it will always be a waste of time and resources.
For girls with whom I blew my window of opportunity, I quickly counted my losses and for some, I even deleted their numbers because there’s nothing more I could do after blowing the chance. It is always up to them to create a second chance for you. The best you can do is cast your nets in new waters, lay your hunting traps in new forests and hopefully you enjoy the window of opportunity the moment it opens.
This doesn’t apply to only Ugandan girls, it also applies to business opportunities in Uganda and career and everything to do with life. There’s always a window of opportunity. Just don’t blow up that opportunity. Don’t let the window close before you have made the best of the opportunity