It’s date night. You’ve had a lovely evening with your bae, and now you’re in the privacy of your room. Things are heating up, but you have a funny feeling in your stomach, and out of nowhere … you let out a toot. We’re guessing all you want to do is bury yourself six feet under, and never, ever EVER show your face again to your (probably very amused) guy. Well, before you start plotting ways to disappear forever, know that farting and other bodily functions are just a part of life, and hence they’re also part of your sexy time. And it’s not just this. Here’s a list of things that happen during (or before or after) sex you shouldn’t be embarrassed about.
1. Queefing, Tooting, Sweating
Sex is not just a function of the genitalia. Your entire body gets charged up, and involved in the process. Your heart rate increases, pupils dilate, and sometimes, you fart, queef (noises from the “other” end, aka, your vajayjay), or sweat. It’s okay to be dripping wet (in ways more than one). If you let out a toot, lighten up. Laughing about it can make sex fun! Queefing are more common than you’d like to believe. Don’t fret over it. It’s just air stuck in your vagina, that comes out with a bang. Maybe it’s just celebrating!
2. Taking too long or not having an orgasm
Female anatomy is complex, and sometimes, it just needs to be treated with patience. You don’t have to match speed with your guy (although climaxing in sync can be pretty amazing). And you certainly don’t have to fake it! Know that if you fake it once, your chances of getting an orgasm decrease because you just told your partner that what they did works fine. Let them know if you didn’t finish, and what they can do to make it better for you.
3. Needing a break
Sex is work. And good sex requires stamina. If your guy can last longer than 10 minutes, and you need a break in the middle, it’s absolutely okay for you to say so. Throw in a clever comment about how awesome it is that this can go on for so long, and you’ll leave him feeling great about himself!
4. Not liking something your partner does
We have different tastes when it comes to what we like in bed. If you don’t like it when he tongues your ear, or puts his finger up your behind, you don’t have to go with it. Just slide his hand out and take it somewhere you would like for it to be. If he doesn’t get the hint, then let him know.
5. Your kinks or fantasies
So, you fantasise about having an orgy, but haven’t considered sharing this piece of information? If you don’t let him know, then the two of you will never explore anything you really want. There goes your chance of ever making your fantasies a reality. If your partner doesn’t share your kinks, then at least you’ve deepened your connection by communicating intimately and honestly.
6. Trying something new
Whether it’s a position, ambience, or as mentioned above, a kink or fantasy, it is in important to keep trying new stuff. Some things work, and some things don’t. Just remember that an exploratory streak is important for you to figure out who you are sexually.