As the relationship progresses, there are certain things every guy looks for as they build their life with someone they love. These are things you won’t hear them talking about, but they are on many a man’s mind.
A partner who has their own identity: One thing that happens in a relationship is partners get comfortable with each other. This is good for many reasons, but there is one negative aspect to getting comfortable: losing your identity as an individual.
You can end up identifying yourself and what you want out of life through the relationship and not as a person. The goals, dreams, and ambitions you once had get lost in you wanting to do what you feel will better the relationship.
A strong relationship requires sacrifice but never losing who you are and what you want. Guys want a partner who never loses sight of themselves as an individual. There is nothing sexier than a strong and confident person.
A partner who’s self-motivated: When you see problems arise in a relationship, it’s often because one partners lets himself or herself go. They’ve lost their self-motivation and rely on their partner for their strength.
At first, this is cute and flattering. After a while, it’s exhausting to constantly have to be someone else’s inspiration and strength. Life is hard enough on its own, so adding the weight of motivating your partner can lead to resentment.
To be the best version of yourself, you can only rely on YOU. Yes, there will be things you do as a couple but your main source of strength has to transcend the relationship.
A partner who shares your goals and dreams: When you start out in a relationship, you’re agreeable to the things your partner tells you they want out of life.
At some point, you reach that level of comfort where you can tell them what’s on your mind. What’s on your mind may crush your partner’s dreams and goals.
Every man wants a partner who will be real from the beginning so that we don’t waste our time. We want a partner who will support and dream with us.
We want a partner who won’t settle for living a good enough life. This, of course, is assuming the goals and dreams are somewhat realistic.
A partner who’s committed to doing the hard work: Relationships are hard work to maintain in the long run. They require our time, energy, and digging deeper.
To grow, we have to choose to love instead of how we feel at times. Guys want a partner who gets that and is willing to put in the hard work with us.
We want someone who tries to understand us. Someone who attempts to get a feel for our moods and tries to understand what we’re going through.
We are not saying we want someone who will put us on a pedestal because we understand relationships are a two-way street. But, we want to know if you’re willing to put in the work–we are.
Love is one of life’s greatest feelings and experiences. Every man and woman should experience a love so strong that you know it can only end very well or turn into a train wreck.
That kind of love helps you grow as a person either way. When you find that person you love with everything in you, commit to doing the hard work, but never lose who you are.
Stay motivated and don’t get comfortable to the point of letting yourself go. And, this applies to guys as well. Never stop pursuing your love, in the same way, you had done before you were together. Keep it spicy.
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