Is your sex-life non-existent, boring and unsatisfying? Does it always feel like a chore rather than a pleasure or have you totally lost the thrill for it?
Fear Not! there is hope yet for you.
Here are a few tips that could help you get back in the game and even strengthen your relationship.
Before we get into it though, you must understand that it is perfectly natural to feel like sex is just an extra demand on your body after all the other things you have to do as part of your day. It is perfectly okay every once in a while to want to give your body a break after all the exhaustion from other responsibilities, but most people take it too far and end up putting out the flame completely.
There are several questions you need to ask yourself, like;
– Does your partner still try to please you or did they give up?
– Was the sex ever really good from the beginning?
– Is your sexual interest still as hot as it was when the relationship was new?
– Could your age be at a place where your hormones affect your sex life?
Once you identify what brought the slump into your bedroom life, it would be advisable to talk it over with your significant other and probably seek professional help.
In the meantime, you could try following this tips;
GO BACK IN TIME
Try and reconnect with the moments that made you all fired up for each other and do those same things. Chances are they would still have that effect.
FOCUS ON BEING INTIMATE
Spend time together, share experiences, jokes , physical affection, trust, conversations and romance. It is common for a couple to stop doing this things after being together for a while, but various studies have shown that intimacy is one of the best set-ups to a wonderful sexual relationship. The emotional connection acts as a natural aphrodisiac.
DATE YOUR PARTNER
Go back to the things you did when the love was new, go out on dates, cuddle, shower together, and engage in other activities that let you focus on each other.
DON’T HAVE SEX JUST FOR THE SAKE OF IT
Some people have sex sometime because their partner wants it, but it could be the buzz kill in your bedroom. It is great to want to please your partner,but if your body is not willing you will not be sated. With time it starts to feel like a chore and you end up feeling used and slowly you start losing desire for your partner. It’s okay to say no sometimes, communicate your needs to your partner at all times.
MASTURBATE
It may sound a tad contradictory; the fact that pleasing yourself could make for a better sex-life but psychologists have said that in moderation ‘ sexual pleasure builds the desire for more pleasure.’ In fact, they say that masturbating with your partner could be a major turn on that could heat things up in the bedroom. Share that information with your partner, demonstrate, describe and guide your partner for maximum pleasure.
Well, there you have it, SPICE IT UP!
Source: Vibe Weekly