“After all they have done for you?”.This is a statement that has kept people in relationships that are draining the life out of them.
It has kept people at jobs they dread going to every morning.
It has kept people’s lips sealed on the physical and emotional pain inflicted on them.
It has held people in slavery.
It has locked up the door to freedom for thousands.
It has covered people in fear to take what is rightful meant for them.
It has silenced young children from speaking up on things that later damage them the more as adults.
It has given manipulators so much power to even source for more victims.
It has got people locked up in jail for crimes they did not commit.
It has kept people from reaching their destiny or fulfilling their purpose in life.
I can go on and on.
It seems like just a statement until you think deep into it and connect it to your situation and how you relate with people.You will be astonished to realise that you have a good number of people you tolerate,try to impress,always avail yoursef for,work for,hangout with,can never say NO! to simply because you feel you owe them.
Maybe they stood in the gap when you lost your parent,maybe they gave you a job when you dint have one,provided shelter at a time when you were homeless,offered a meal,paid tuition for you or your child,anything that pulled you out of the terrible ordeal.
May God bless them for having such a heart(not many do).
But let me ask a genuine question?At what point in life do we finally pay off this debt.
Is it for the rest of our life,is it when we have finally got back on our feet and can give a token of appreciation?Is it when we accumulate a good amount of money and trade it back in monetary terms?Is it when the time comes and they need our help too?I would really love to hear different opinions on this.
Allow me share mine.First,this is a debt that can never be paid.Its more like saying,now that am an adult let me go back to day1 and pay back my parents every single penny spent on me😂😂😂.What a joke!
For most people that have been there for you in trying terms,it surely comes from a good place and they never plan it out that they will need a payback.But for you who has been helped,there’s always that feeling of need to do something in return as a gesture of appreciation.
But the best way i think you can pay back is be a better person.It would only be right that if i helped you in a time of need and you are in a better place.I would wish you excel at everything you set out to do and make me proud.Nothing is as beautiful as watching someone transform from grass to Grace and you were part of their story.
Sadly though,most people do not see it that way.Once they have rendered the help,you have been fully tagged as their “slave” and they your “master”.
So what ever it is you set out to do in life,they must be a priority and then your life and goals next.
You will have to serve them first and then cater to yourself,so don’t be upset when they are offended that you are not available.
What is that keeping you busy?(work)Had it not been them would you be busy?😣.
So every time you are trying to make your life goals,plans,strategies,you must put them into consideration and guess what.
This will only keep you planning with no execution from one year to another.Because the day you had set out to act on something major in your life,they needed you too to execute something for them.So yours had to be put on hold….I wanted to but i remembered that “After all they have done for me” ,i had to ran to their rescue.
Well,that is very thoughtful but when are you ever going to fulfil your own goals in life.When is it going to finally be about you and what you desire out of this life?Take time today and think about it but if you ask me,It’s now or never.
Time to thank whoever it is that picked you up at your lowest and re-focus on thy self.Set new plans,goals,strategies and make YOU the priority.Have faith,work hard and honest.Be humble at whatever level God elevates you to and never ever forget where you have come from.
I wish you the very best as you conquer your fears,learn to say NO without being afraid of who you are not pleasing but most importantly seek God’s guidance on everything that as you birth a new YOU💖💖
