We know, we know: Porn is not real life. Because really, when is the pizza delivery guy ever on the same hotness scale as say, Joe Manganiello? But behind all the stereotypes, people who perform in adult films really do know a ton about sex—it is their job, after all. So we reached out to Jessica Drake, creator of the DVD series Jessica Drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex, for some hot and heavy bedroom tips she’s learned on set. Your sex life will never be the same.
1. Go All Out for Role Play
Avoid the always-open costume shop that sells that generic French maid outfit for 50 percent off. “Something more elaborate shows that you’re making the time and effort to dress up and do something special for your partner,” says Drake, who has to prep for movies by wearing some very realistic costumes. Sure, it’s all pretend, but we bet you’ll get way more into your sexy doctor role if you’re not in an itchy, uncomfortable polyester dress.
2. Keep Your Clothes On
Well, at least some. “The reason we keep our shoes on is because it elongates our legs and pushes our [butts] up so that certain positions feel better for you,” says Drake. Plus, if you’re dressed up as characters, you still want to remember your fantasy throughout your entire romp, she adds.
3. Masturbate During Breaks
Get this: A 15-minute to 20-minute porn scene can take at least an hour to create, says Drake. But by no means are the porn stars going at it for that long—people need to catch their breath at some point, and the same goes for you. Interruptions happen, whether the kids need attention or your partner loses his erection mid-sex. When it does, don’t let your sex drive stall. Drake masturbates between takes to keep herself turned on.This way, she’s ready to get back in the game when halftime is over.
4. Switch Between Foreplay and Intercourse
Sex should never be a linear action, says Drake. Going from foreplay to sex and back to oral keeps “surprising” your impending orgasm, so you never really know when you’ll climax (hot, hot, hot!). Just remember that if you’re using condoms, use a new one for each act of oral sex or penetration.
5. Talk Dirty
We don’t mean shouting loud enough for your neighbors to call the cops—most women probably don’t make that much noise during sex, says Drake. “I like when a guy is whispering in my ear about what he’s about to do, that’s a really big turn-on,” she adds. You know how to talk dirty to your partner to get their blood pumping, but encourage them to reciprocate by telling you how you’re making them feel. Everyone loves a good compliment.
6. Pay Attention to Your Needs
Drake says she orgasms more during softcore scenes because she gets to focus more on her own needs. So take her cue and figure out what positions or situations work best for you—then make sure they get their due “camera time.” Forget about everything else going on and focus on your pleasure for a while. End scene!
Source: Womenshealthmag.com