1. ‘Not like that.’
Remember in school when you were taught to give ‘constructive criticism?’ This does not apply to your lady in the bedroom. It’s not very sexy or encouraging to tell a woman her skills are subpar in the heat of the moment.
You should always frame it in the positive by talking about what you do like. How we say things to each other can make a huge difference in performance and s*xual confidence.
Also avoid: ‘What are you doing?’
2. ‘My ex used to love it when I…’
All women are different, so don’t lean heavily on past experiences—and definitely don’t discuss it. Besides, who’s to say that the previous women didn’t fake their pleasure just to get you to finish quicker?
Talking about your prior s*xual encounters can drive a woman completely crazy—and not in a good way. She doesn’t need to hear about it, and if you bring it up, she’ll feel threatened and jealous. For a lot of women, that’s a dealbreaker.’
Also avoid: ‘Let’s try this position that I did one time with…’
3. ‘I have to be out of here by 4:00.’
Making allusions to the idea that you don’t have much time to work with is a major mood-killer. If you absolutely must talk about somewhere that you need to be, or the fact that you’re in a rush, at least wait until afterward!
Also avoid: ‘I need to wake up super early tomorrow.’
4. ‘I wish you had more a*s to grab!’
Here’s a newsflash: Women are often extremely insecure, especially when they’re unclad and most vulnerable. Pointing out things about other women’s bodies that you like, particularly ones that highlight what your partner doesn’t have, is a major no. Anything that’s going to make a woman self-conscious is a female-libido kill. She’ll shut down immediately.’
Also avoid: ‘What’s that weird red bump on your back?’
5. ‘Did you come yet?’
Contrary to popular belief, ‘an climax does not define good or bad s*x. So please stop asking if she came or saying that you want to see her come. That puts way too much pressure on her.If she did climax, she can choose to say something or not, but it’s important to remember that for a woman, having an climax does not equal having a good time in bed. It can be lovely…but it should not be the goal.
Also avoid: ‘Are you going to come soon?’
Source: Modernghana
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