Every one of us has a different way of expressing our love. While for a few it might be the smaller gestures, other go over the top to show that they care. Honestly, it’s the thought that matters and as long as you get the message, the way it’s done doesn’t really count. However, what if we are reading way more into something simply because we love these people and want them to love us back. There are many things that can feel cute and adorable in the beginning, but can actually be a sign of mistrust and insecurity. Are those bouts of jealousy, refusal to make you meet their friends, and lack of commitment really love? Here are five things that people often do, that we misinterpret for love and care.
1. “I don’t want to spend a single moment without you”
It’s cute that someone you love so deeply loves you right back, and wants to spend all their free time with you. But you also need to realise that not giving you your personal space could also be a sign of lack of trust. Are they overly jealous of your friends, and do they not trust you without them being around. Since trust is pretty much the foundation of building a long-lasting relationship, this might be the start to a big problem.
2. “I got so lucky with you, my ex was horrible”
Yes, it’s adorable the way your partner is 100 percent involved in this relationship. But constant comparisons to the ex might also indicate that they are still not over their past. More than a compliment, are they trying to reassure themselves that this is a good thing?
3. “You are so much more talented than I am”
Of course, you are amazing. But constantly talking about how good you are, as compared to them is also a way for them to put pressure on you to constantly validate them. The conversations always goes like, “You are way more amazing than I am” and you going, “No no, you are amazing too” You get it; it is not fun to do this all your life.
4. “I want you only for myself”
Is he/she not making you meet any of their friends or family, claiming that they don’t want to “share” you with the world? It might sound cute right now, but it is not the best thing in the world. Not making you meet the people in their lives can also be an indication of how they don’t really want the world to know about the relationship, because they are not too serious.
5. “I really love you a lot, but I am not ready yet”
It’s okay to go slow in a relationship and give each other time, but if he or she is doing everything that a couple does except for calling you both a couple, then there is a problem.
Source: iDiva.com