When a guy is in to you, you will know it. This is especially true of men dating over 40. Real grownup men don’t play games. When they’re in, they’re all in. Here are 4 surefire signs he definitely likes you:
1. He keeps showing up.
He calls, texts, emails, and keeps asking you out. He’s on time or he calls if he’s a little late. These are all good signs! Remember though, he has a life. At the beginning, give him a little time between contacts if he needs it. But once he has you on his “maybe she’s a keeper” radar, you won’t be able to get rid of him.
2. He tries to make you happy.
He’s thoughtful about your dates, planning something he thinks you’ll like. Or he’s sure to ask you where you want to go. (When he does, thank him and suggest something you love that’s maybe out of the norm. Roller skating? Museum and lunch?) He’s nice to your dog, he compliments you, and he lets you share his dessert. He makes sure you’re warm enough and that your car is safe. These seem like small things, but they aren’t. They’re big signs letting you know that he cares about you. Pay attention to these and when you receive them graciously, watch his eyes light up.
3. He tries to impress you.
This part can be annoying if you don’t understand it. You may think he’s a bit arrogant, self-absorbed or bragging. If you can just let him have his moment and know it’s coming from flattery, you might actually find yourself impressed by what he’s telling you. You can smile to yourself because you know this means he wants you to like him. (Men don’t generally try to impress women they don’t care about.) It’s not exactly the way we girls do it, but it’s their way and it pays to understand that. And, again, it’s another good sign.
4. He shares with you.
When you’re together or talking on the phone, he’s present, happy and interested — most of the time anyway. (A bad day at work can make anyone grumpy or distracted.) Overall his mood is good when you’re together. He asks you how your day was and asks your opinion. He remembers the name of the person in your office you can’t stand, knows what music you like and checks in with how your family is doing. He tells you about his day, his plans and, in general, what he’s thinking.
It’s pretty simple because men are pretty simple. When they like you, they show it. With grownup courtship there should be no big mystery to keep you up at night. No secret code in his emails to decipher. No having to read between the lines when you talk. No going over and over what he really meant. When he likes you, you will know it and feel it!
Source: YourTango.com