Flirting is an integral part of every young lady`s life. But if dealing with those who try to win your heart is easy, you may find it hard to win someone’s heart yourself. Girls are so shy and often become nervous when flirting with hot confident guys. You just look into his amazing eyes and suddenly lose your head. Things seem to never be the same again and you can`t get control over yourself. Those moments are unforgettably beautiful but we often spoil everything and make a fake impression. If you want to stay calm with your future partner and make a stunning first impression, here are 12 terrible mistakes you should avoid when flirting…
1. Supposing he knows that you like him
Think the man is aware of your passion for him simply because you`re gorgeous today? No, ladies, that never works out. Take a first step to show your interest and to make him fall in love with you. Remember, no bees, no honey. He will never know you like him if you don’t let him know. He will run away from you if you don’t give any signs.
2. Telling about the others who like you
Well, frankly speaking, it`s all about me. Don`t make this fatal mistake. When you tell a guy that he`s the winner among all the other guys who also like you, he may think something like “You may count for our friendship and nothing more. You see, I already have a “partner’s list” to choose from.” He may think you are a light-headed girl who’s not interested in long-term relationships.
3. Being too confident and mean
When flirting with a shy guy, don’t be too confident and don’t try to show that you don’t have any insecurities. When flirting with a confident guy, though, don’t be too mean. Many girls tend to be mean with confident guys because they think it can help them look more confident too. In fact, this type of behavior can scare any guy away.
4. Constant laughing
Guys like to tell jokes. This way, they try to boost a woman’s mood and show that they are funny. Well, laughing at his jokes is a must, but don`t go too far. Don’t start giggling every time he tells a joke, especially if you don`t really find it funny, because it`ll look unnatural and he will understand that you actually don’t like it.
5. Drinking too much alcohol
Taking a few shots of something will not spoil your date. What`s more, it can make you feel relaxed and even more confident. However, moderation is always important. You should avoid getting drunk when flirting, as you wouldn`t like him to see you rolling on the floor, moaning and crying. Modern guys are looking for the girls with no bad habits like drinking or smoking.
6. Being too much interested
Express your interest in what he says with questions and great listening skills. You shouldn`t pretend that his words are so much exciting that you are ready to become his girlfriend right now. The art of flirting is hard to master but one of the most important things to remember is to be yourself. After all, you can’t pretend all the time, right?
7. Lying
Lying is awful and it can ruin any type of relationship. Tracing whom you lied and what you lied about in order not to get caught is a heavy burden. Moreover, it’s a bad idea to start your relationship with a lie. If you want your crush to love you, not your lie, it’s better tell the truth only. No sweet little lies!
8. Flirting online only
When flirting online you feel so comfortable, brave and confident that you may start avoiding him in real life. If he doesn’t ask you out on a date, it doesn’t mean he is not interested in you. He may be too shy to do it so be the first to ask him out on a little coffee date. If he rejects you, move on. You deserve a better boyfriend!
9. Facebook stalking him
Yes, Facebook may show you many interesting things about your crush’s life, but don’t make it a habit to check his account every hour in order to find out what he’s going to do tonight. Avoid commenting too much and sending dozens of messages. There are a lot of better ways to draw his attention.
10. Pretending you have the same favorite band
When I was in my early 20s, I made this mistake to get my crush’s attention. I told him that I loved his favorite band too. OMG, he started listing his favorite songs and I had to nod my head and smile. Eventually, I had to say the truth and that was the end of our so-called date. Don`t start your relationship with even a small lie because he may not understand it.
11. Being too cold towards him
Women love drama and like to test men. I used to follow the strategy “I don`t care about you, so love me” and I must confess that it was a mistake. When you make a man think you don`t like him just to find out if he`s straightforward enough to deserve your love, it may bring the desirable result. But think twice, would you like to be in a relationship where you`re loved only when you don`t like your partner?
12. Being too mysterious
I have a friend who likes to keep an intrigue and often doesn`t answer the questions guys ask her. It`s not a fatal mistake, but if you give some information about who you really are, you will look and act natural and find a common language faster.
Love is a unique, subtle and sensitive thing. Flirting is a necessary part of love, so it requires an extremely careful treatment. We go crazy when the time of flirting with someone super hot comes. But wake up ladies, we are those who always tend to complicate everything, especially the relationships. All men are simple by nature, so you don`t need to use any special flirting techniques. Just stay yourself, make a deep breath, calm down and win his heart! What funny flirting mistakes have you or your friends ever made?
Source: Womanitely.com