Talking about sex with our man is something that we avoid either because we feel uncomfortable or we don’t feel the need to discuss our bedroom antics. Well, that’s where you are wrong. Not talking about what turns you on is one of the many problems that lead to a bad sex life. Here is a list of 11 things that you need to stop doing in order to spice up the action between the sheets.
1. Not taking the initiative: Yes, you are shy but taking the initiative every once in a while is a sure way to heat things up between the sheets.
2. Holding on to arguments: It’s difficult to let go of your emotional stress and just go ahead and do the deed. But trust us, at times just indulging in thoughtless sex helps clear the air and makes dealing with an argument easier.
3. Not pleasuring yourself: Many women feel that masturbation is taboo and are ashamed of indulging, Pleasuring yourself can actually help improve your libido which leads to a more active sex life.
4. Being embarrassed: Stop being embarrassed in bed. Share your fantasies with your man, tell him what turns you on and demand the right action. Hiding things and expecting him to know what should be done is just… well, stupid.
5. Limiting sex to the bedroom (No, it’s not what you are thinking): If you thought that sex is just in the bedroom you are wrong. Start flirting and talking dirty with your partner. Send him some saucy messages and build up the excitement during the day before you actually do the deed.
6. Not relaxing: If you are one of the lucky few who can sleep the moment your head hits the pillow, we are jealous. However, this is doing nothing for your sex life. Make sure you plan out some quality time with your partner instead of being too caught up in the daily routine.
7. Falling into a routine: Be more spontaneous. Break out of the sex rut and try new things to add some spice to your sex life. Morning sex, sex in the car… anything!
8. Cluttered space: Remove those stacks of unwashed laundry and that pile of bills from your bedside. It’s much harder to get in the mood if the place is cluttered and untidy. Turn your bedroom into a small haven and you won’t feel the need to rush off to a holiday to beat the stress.
9. Always saying no: Are you not in the mood? Well, do it anyway. Research proves that desire increases during foreplay and you’ll find yourself feeling much more aroused.
10. No foreplay: It’s only natural to focus all your energies on reaching the big O, however the emphasis should also be on feeling good. Spend some time indulging in a massage session before you do the deed.
11. Obsessing over your body: We all have those unloved body parts that we would trade in a second but don’t let that rule your sex life. Stop feeling conscious about the way you look and indulge.
Source: iDiva
