At some point, we’ve all dated a bad boy. We’ve loved him, and then cursed him. And we might not regret being with a bad boy, but we definitely don’t want to face the horrors of that relationship again. But there’s no denying that being with him only made you stronger. Read on as well you the things you learnt only from being with him.
1. Trust actions, not words.
Boys can play with words and they do it really well. More often than not, they’ll say what you want to hear, not what they actually want to say. And that always makes you melt. So, it’s time you don’t fall for those flowery dialogues any more. Instead, see what the guy can ‘actually’ do for you. Does he keep his promises? Is he there for you when you want him around? If yes, then he’s a keeper. If no, then you know what to do!
2. People will change when they want to change.
And not when you want them too. It’s an old theory, but we give chance to the bad boys, thinking that they’ll change, but that doesn’t happen. This is no Bollywood film that the boy will realise your value and one incident will change him. Naah! That doesn’t happen.
3. Lust, excitement and butterflies run out after a while.
You cannot build the foundation of your relationship on these three things. The moment the honeymoon phase is up, you hit reality and that is not love. It is probably a habit, vulnerability or the fear that no one will love you again. Next time, look for something more substantial in your relationship.
4. In a relationship, always put yourself first.
If you can’t make yourself happy, you cannot make the other person happy. If you feel you are being used, you probably are. Bad boys suck the happiness out of you. The moment you realise you are not happy, it is time to take a step back.
5. Feeling respected is in your hands.
If he disrespected you, you gave him that power over you. When we are with someone, we often start neglecting and overlooking small things that actually signify something important. It is better to lay down boundaries in advance.
6. Take time to trust people.
The moment people realise that you will do anything for them, they start taking you for granted. There are times when we give in to a relationship really fast. It’s better idea to take one step at a time.
7. Negativity is infectious.
Toxic people will mess with your head, the happy parts of your life, the positivity, the passion and pretty much everything that is missing in their depressing life. And you will become like them. You will get pangs of anger and sadness. But, don’t forget that the problem is not with you, but with this one person who is transferring all his negativity to you.
8. It is important to listen to your friends.
It’s simple. When your friends say, ‘he’s not a good guy’, he’s NOT. It is just as simple as it sounds. And you have to trust your friends and keep them closer because they are the ones who help you sort out your life when the bad guy decides to walk away.
9. ‘I love you’ is the most misused phrase.
Don’t fall for it. Don’t! Most people don’t know the meaning of the word ‘love.’ They might say ‘I love you’ a million times because it will help them have things their way.
We live in a world where cheating and undefined relationships are common so it’s important to be careful. Love has lost somewhere and not many understand its relevance. So think a thousand times before you say this to someone.
10. Think before you ‘friend zone’ a nice guy.
The nice guys are always ignored and friend zoned. And only we are to blame for that because we run after the bad ones. We don’t realise that bad boys are actually boring. They’ll fight with you, cheat, not take your calls and end up hurting you. It is the nice guy who is full of surprises. If he really likes you, he will surprise you in ways you can’t even imagine. In fact, dating a ‘good’ guy will spoil you for life.
11. Have fun as long as it lasts.
But if you have decided to date a bad guy, make the most of it. You know you will end up heartbroken. Accept it instead of worrying about the outcome. Don’t get into this with the aim of falling in love. Treat this as a learning experience and just go with the flow.
Source: India Times
