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Have you been stuck in a dating dry spell? If a decent date with a great guy hasn’t happened in some time, chances are you are putting out some pretty uninviting vibes, intentionally or not. If love is what you seek, it’s time to emerge from the rut and embody a sexy, sassy, seductive, attract-any-guy-I-want attitude!

Does that sound intimidating? Maybe even impossible? It’s not. Here’s how to kiss the dating blues goodbye for good.

1. Ask Yourself The Question That Trumps All Other Dating Questions
“Would I date myself?” It’s a valid question, right? Take an honest look at who you are, how you act and what issues from your past linger in your present. Do you engage in self-sabotaging activities? Is your inner voice your best friend or worst enemy? Are you comfortable being you? Before you can be ready for a healthy relationship, you actually have to focus on yourself first. Accept or fix your issues. Embrace your baggage. Work on becoming your best self. Once you can look yourself in the eye and think — Yeah, I’d date me!! I’m a pretty fantastic catch. — then (and only then) attempt the rest of these steps.

2. Don’t Fake It, Do It!
Don’t try to enjoy yourself. Don’t try to get out of your box. Just do it. Make a decision. Trying is an advance excuse for failure and for not going all in and giving it your best. Have zero excuses. If you don’t find success, make a mid-course correction and try a different tactic. Keep at it until you do find success.

3. Douse Those Old Flames And Light A New Fire
It’s time to clear out old flames and residual love baggage. Out with the old and in with the new is an attractive and incredibly exciting mindset. Who in your life have you allowed to linger around for no real reason at all? Who doesn’t serve you anymore? Who feels like a burden? Who transformed from being a crush to just a crutch? Who makes you feel used? Who is just a booty call to you (or you are to them)? Is being a booty call what you want for yourself? Is it hurting you?

You can’t open a new door until old doors are shut. So take some time and clear that closet of old emotional baggage as a bold step toward refreshing your love life. Why? Because you deserve to be happy and fulfilled. You deserve to love and be loved. So make some space for it, starting now!

4. Check Your Reflection
If you can’t figure out why you keep attracting guys who are manic, obsessive, excessive partiers, workaholics or lacking drive and direction, look in the mirror. The people you attract are often a perfect reflection of behaviors or mindsets you hold within yourself. Remember question #1: Would you date yourself? If you consistently attract men with attributes you truly dislike, fix yourself first. Then you’ll attract a great guy — one just as great as you.

5. Stand For Something
Before you can find the right guy for you, first take a deep, hard, and honest look at who truly you are to clarify what is most important to you. What do you stand for? What are your priorities? What are the core values you will and will not budge on?
Your values are your foundation. Once you are clear on them, you can better determine if your potential guy’s beliefs align with yours in areas that deeply matter to you. Need some help in this department? Let’s work together to figure out who you are, what you stand for, what your best self looks like, what weaknesses exist within each core value, and how you can better live into those values. Dating becaomes a lot easier and more straight-forward when align your romantic goals with your core values first.

6. Get A Life
“You complete me” is horseshit. You don’t want him to be the center of your universe. He doesn’t want to be that either. But every guy wants to be doted on by their partner. You think? Well, doting is one thing but being needy and having your world revolve entirely around his is another. Not to mention that it’s a lot of pressure! And that kind of pressure is anything but sexy.

So what is sexy? Having a life of your own that you love. In other words:

You’re busy, driven, self-sufficient and autonomous with your own interests.
You’re interesting. You have things going on that contribute to high-quality conversations.
You have something (skills, perspectives, ideas) to contribute to the relationship.
How do you “get a life”? By expanding your interests. Take a class. Get out of your box. Try one new thing every single day. Find your passion. Take up a hobby that excites you. Become excited about your career again. As Katy Perry says: “Stand for something, or you will fall for everything.”

7. Be “That Girl”
You know that woman who enters a room and you (and everyone else) can’t help but notice her? What is it about her that attracts so much attention? What energy does she radiate? How does she carry herself? What is she wearing? What type of facial expression does she present? How does she make you and others feel?

Generally “that girl” is smiling. She is confident. Her chin is up, shoulders back and she makes eye contact with everyone. She is warm and invites others to be in her presence. She is deliberate with her moves, almost cat-like. Instead of pushing her energy out at you, she pulls you into hers. She might not be a natural beauty, but she takes care of herself and is well put together, whether she is in jeans and a t-shirt or an evening gown. I want you to get a very clear picture of “that girl” in your mind. Then write down her traits, give her a name and then embody her whenever you go out.

8. Seek And Ye Shall Find
Are you a gym junkie? Mix it up and go outside instead where you might meet interesting people. Go for a hike, walk the boardwalk, visit the ice rink or join a snow-shoeing meet-up group. Work different muscles and have an open heart. Sweating together has been shown to initiate chemistry. The important thing is to try new things and put yourself in new places. Instead of going to the bar where everyone knows your name, try that new place that just opened downtown. Talk to people. Ask questions as if you’re a tourist (we tend to be more social when on vacation).

Are you more of an intellectual? Take a class on a topic that doesn’t typically interest you in order to meet new people. Intimidated by technology? Go to the Apple store and take one of their group classes. Enroll in a CPR class. Try a cooking workshop. Have a positive attitude and be open to learning (and meeting someone). Also look for opportunities to share what you already know. Wine snob? Go to a big wine store and walk around perusing the bottles. If you see a potential partner who looks lost or confused, offer some suggestions.

9. Open Up To Online Love
Online dating is a strategy. It requires pre-qualifying, answering specific questions and profile mapping. Yes, it can feel like a whole new dating world out there, but I can show you how to make it less scary (and even a ton of fun). Whether you find the idea of online dating intimidating, are repelled by a previous bad online dating experience, or are clinging to the idea that the only way to meet Mr. Right is the “natural” way — get over it! Online dating gives you the opportunity to date a lot! Translation: practice makes perfect right? Plus, you will develop an attitude of abundance, possibly the most powerful tool to creating dating confidence.

10. So Many Fish In The Sea
Even if you aren’t dating several guys and you really don’t have any other viable prospects, you still need to embrace an attitude of abundance. The operative word being attitude. This is about sending the energetic message that, while you think this guy is fantastic and you truly do hope it works out with him, there are plenty of fish in the sea and you can easily pull in another guy just as great or better if need be.

An attitude of abundance is an attitude of confidence. It’s knowing that you are a valuable commodity. You are worth something and so is your time and the energy that you invest into being on a date with someone. To clarify: an attitude of abundance is not an attitude of arrogance. It is not about juggling, screwing, messing with or being careless with multiple minds and hearts. Sure you might be dating multiple people at once, but the purpose is to become clear on what you want and need in a partner, honing in and then making a choice. After all, how can you make a selection if you don’t have any options?

Source: YourTango 

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Zahara Totto opens up on why her relationship with ‘Big Papa’ failed

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Next Media, Zahara Totto is still mending a broken heart after breaking-up with Nigerian money bag, Don Solomon Ugwu aka Big Papa (Oga).

The ‘Uncut’ TV show host’s one-year affair with Don Solomon was confirmed done and dusted on Monday, 10th August after a bitter fight between the two lovers.

However, Zahara has since taken it to her Snap chat account spilling all the unbearable circumstances that sparked their misunderstandings.

The motor-mouthed TV presenter, narrates that all went wrong in her relationship when she found-out that boyfriend, Big Papa was sleeping around with other women.

She reveals that her efforts in resolving the issues together with hubby all ended in vain after he refuted all claims of cheating.

He instead continued sharing their bed with all kinds of city girls.

The mother-of-four also says Big Papa is disrespectful, non-developmental, adds no value to no one, among others, and that’s why she never regrets breaking-up with him.

Zahara further says she can’t take his behaviors anymore or stand him because he is disgusting.

Here is her statement in full;

Allow me tell you a short story. I have been busy working the anus decided to sleep with every slut who cares to open their legs to him thinking they will get rich from him! Such low thinking brains!

Am a one-man woman, and when I found out that’s the case I tried to talk to him so we solve things where it had gone wrong as I didn’t want the relationship to end! But the anus used that to his advantage to continue with his Ashawo behavior of sleeping with more sluts.

I was in Love cos we have been together for a year now! Didn’t want it to lose /

my man! But all in vain. The anus is disrespectful, non-developmental, adds no value to no one, etc.

He is threatening me right now for exposing is bleached jik pussy selling bitch who has worked so had to see that me and the anus separate. I can nolonger take it in anymore! I can’t stand him anymore! He disgusts me.

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Video: Zahara Totto beaten by hubby, Big Papa before bitter split

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The sudden breakup between NBS TV’s Zahara Totto and her boyfriend, Don Solomon Ugwu alias Big Papa (Oga) continue to surface with more secrets spilled regarding their one-year old relationship.

Issues seem not light at all as we may have earlier anticipated, for the motor-mouthed media personality after another video storming social media today showing a bitter fight between Zahara and now ex-boyfriend, Don Solomon.

In the video, the mother of four is seen ridiculously nagging and clinging to her boyfriend as she begs him not call it quits in their relationship.

She is later thumped to the ground continuously by Big Papa giving her no chance again in his life.

The fight is most-likely to have been a continuation of the leaked audio where Oga was hectically trying to conclude his affair with the ‘Uncut’ show host.

Watch video here;

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Sheilah Gashumba’s relationship with boyfriend, Gods Plan on the rocks

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It seems our favourite young celebrity couple Sheila Gashumba and boyfriend GodsPlan are taking a break. Just days after city socialite Ali Marcus alias Godsplan came out on his Snapchat to reveal his break up with his long time fiancée Sheilah Gashumba, it is now clear that the two have let go of each after deleting their pictures as couple on instagram.

According to information gathered, the two who had many pictures of each other all over instagram surprised their fans when they deleted pictures of them as couple leaving their own singles.

It is said that the two love birds had reached the darkest part of it all after they both started hitting at themselves with allegations of infidelity which forced God’s plan to announce their splitting. “I can confirm me and lil stunner have parted ways,” he said.

Sheilah and God’s plan started dating three years ago and have been able to live in the spotlight as a young celebrity couple. The two have been known for living a lavish lifestyle with trips and vacations. They have been able to do things together regardless of their fights.

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Comedian Chiko officially introduced by his fiancée

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Following what the weekend had in store for Uganda’s stand up comedian Frank Mubiru better known as Chiko of the Madrat and Chiko duo alongside his fiancée Ophra, it’s clear that the two are now one.

On Sunday the 9th of August, Ophra an employee with the Civil Aviation Authority officially introduced Chiko to her family in a ceremony which was attended by his friends and family.

With excitement, Chiko shared a picture of himself kneeling down proposing to Ophra his fiancée accompanied with a caption; “LOVE is a journey starting at FOREVER ending at NEVER ….Finally”

Chiko was smartly dressed in an African Designed trouser and a long sleeved shirt.He also added shades which gave him a cool look. His fiancée Ophra pulled it off with simplicity and beauty.

However, the function was attended by a few people due to the restrictions put by the government following the outbreak of the CoronaVirus.

We wish them all the best.

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