By Ian Ortega
I had a light argument with a lady who identifies as a feminist yesterday. She argued that when a woman says No, then she means No.
I nodded in strong disagreement. Any person who ever says that is probably someone who’s not been in those situations when a woman says No yet she means Yes or interest me more.
I could recount a good many times when a woman would say No, you take her word for it and hours later she will be annoyed because you took her No to be serious.
The bottom line is this: when you pursue a girl, she’s never gonna say yes the first time anywhere. I have been to a good number of countries. Have been with girls from different cultures, tribes and districts. They never say ‘yes’ the first time. They’re gonna say no. All of them.
The maxim holds; “it’s not what a girl says that counts, it’s what she does. Her actions are the ones to listen to not her words.”
And every girl is different. One girl takes hours to turn her No into a perfect Yes. Another will take seconds.
A woman’s natural instinct is to play hard to get. You’re gonna try to go in and kiss her and she’s going to play around. How can a man tell a difference between a no that means ‘wait and try later’ or ‘no we can’t ever do do’?
I guess it’s pretty obvious from experience. There’s a no that’s soft that calls you on to try harder and keep doing what you are doing.
There’s a serious no when she’s gonna stand up, and leave the bed. She won’t even allow you to go in for a kiss.
Of course there are a few outliers. Girls who will instantly say YES. Girls who know they can’t waste a chance to have sex with you by playing hard to get.
But for most of girls, they are gonna try to resist and say NO. They want to feel like it was a challenge getting them.
I am very certain, when she follows you to the bedroom, her No will never mean No. When you try to give her money and she says No, don’t believe her No.
It all comes from going out and meeting many girls and having sex with a good number.
If you are on the bed with her and she says no, continues to stroke your hairy armpits, press your fingers and lie their on the bed, then all she’s saying touch me again and kiss me.
If however she says STOP at the first try and immediately leaves the bedroom, then that’s probably a real NO.
So all Ugandan guys could save themselves by watching what she does and not caring to listen to what she says. Women speak through actions not words. They let off those subtle signs that you will begin to notice intuitively. They speak in a language called womanese that only men who go out and approach many girls can translate.