The lack of proper communication is the number one reason given for break ups in most relationships however there are other factors that contribute to this.
A poll conducted by Cosmopolitan revealed some of the main reasons why people would decide to put an end to a relationship.
Top 10 reasons couples break up
1. We just fell out of love. ( 39.7% )
2. Cheating. (36.6 percent)
3. Lying about something, trust lost. (29.3 percent)
4. We were always fighting and realized we shouldn’t be together. (29.1 percent)
5 and 6 (tied). He/she stopped doing sweet, romantic things for me.
I missed being single and dating around. (both 21.1 percent)
7. He/she wasn’t very ambitious when it came to his career. (20.6 percent)
8. One of us moved. (20.2 percent)
9. He/she didn’t get along with my friends and family. (18.9 percent)
10. The sex was bad. (15.7 percent)
However if you still want to make things work with your partner, here are some tips from psychcentral.comthat might help:
Let go of the past
Hanging on to old grievances is part of the intent to protect. Blaming your partner for your pain rather than taking responsibility for whatever choices you made that resulted in your unhappiness.
Disengage from conflict as soon as one person is not open to learning
There is no point in trying to talk out problems and issues unless both people are open to learning. If you are open and your partner is not, then give up trying to solve problems by talking about them, and unilaterally figure out how to take loving care of yourself in the face of your partner’s choices.
No judgement
Let go of analysing or defining your partner. Let go of interrogating questions that are really attacks. These behaviors are controlling and invasive.
Soul searching
Rather than making your partner responsible for your fears of abandonment or your fears of losing yourself, do your inner healing work to move beyond these fears.
We are all different
Accept your lack of control over your partner, choosing instead to see your partner as his or her own person. Learn to cherish the differences rather than try to make your partner into you. Support your partner in becoming all he or she came to this planet to be.
Source: Sowetan
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