Little gestures can have a big payoff.
Making an effort to mark a significant moment shows her that you value her. And research finds that when she feels appreciated, the two of you are happier and more likely to stick together, says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., author of Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.
You don’t have to spend a fortune: Simply spending time together or coming up with a creative, thoughtful gift will win you points. But you have to know which benchmarks are truly meaningful to her.
Therapist Robert Taibbi, L.C.S.W.—the author of seven books, including Doing Couples Therapy: Craft and Creativity in Work with Intimate Partners—weighs in on four special occasions which you should definitely mark on your calendar and remember to chill the champagne.
When You Met
Pull up a stool at the pizza joint where you first flirted, says Taibbi. Or do one better: Make the pie at home and skip dealing with the grouchy counter guy.
Her Big Promotion
She killed it, so raise a glass, says Taibbi. Try: “I knew this would be a big change and hard work, but it’s paid off. I’m proud of you.” Now pop that bubbly.
Her Mom’s Birthday
Cute, right? But seriously: Help her mom kick back, and maybe toss in that new Amy Poehler book she wants, and you could earn a powerful ally.
When You Moved In
Surprise her with an upgrade to your abode: Plant a tree in the yard, buy that piece of art she’s had her eye on, or spring for luxury sheets. (Then test ‘em out!)
Source: Men’sHealth
