So here are some keys for turning romance phase into real love.
Be true to yourself.
We lose our integrity when we mean one thing and then say or do something else. And what we truly think and feel always reveals itself anyway, usually through our nonverbal signals, because it’s not possible to tell a lie without telling the truth at the same time. So focus on communicating what you mean, without justifying yourself out of fear of being misjudged.
Become a match for what you want.
Say to yourself, “I’m in the process of expressing who I truly am, for me, rather than for someone else. And my (future) partner knows who he/she truly is and is also comfortable expressing that. And when we meet up, we’ll recognize that in each other. And as we keep expressing honestly, we’ll grow together at the same pace.”
Trust the process.
We find love by expressing love. And then we’re able to be authentic from the beginning, because we’re not afraid to be vulnerable. We let the other person see all of who we are. And the reward is intimacy, which is true romance. When who we are, and what we say and do, matches the intention of our hearts, our whole being sends a single message. And by taking this power into our own hands, any relationship can become what we want it to be. And all our relationships can be based on real love.