By Ian Ortega
I strongly disagree with People who think that MONEY GETS YOU A WOMAN!!! I think this is damn wrong. The only difference is that men act different with money, they tend to have better levels of confidence.
Women don’t like money, and money won’t make her get attracted to you.
On the contrary, women are seeking out for the experiences that things like money bring about. They want the fun that money brings about, the laughter, the admiration and all these things. Just because she sleeps with you doesn’t mean she’s attracted to you, there is a big difference.
You cannot convince a woman to feel attraction for you. Let me explain, Just because you’re rich, attractive, successful, drive a nice car, take her to fancy dinners, buy her expensive things, that won’t make her feel attraction for you.
I know it’s not logical, I get it, but women don’t choose mates on logic. They might say they do, but they don’t. Women choose mates by their level of attraction they have for them (unless they are money hungry women after you for only your wallet) and not for what you can give them in return.
Men seem to think bribing women with gifts will make them fall in love with you, but it has the total opposite effect, women see this as you needing their approval because you don’t think you are worthy enough to date them without having to buy them things in return.Why do you think so many women get into relationships with bad boys who treat them terribly? Because these guys trigger an attraction inside these women. It’s not logical, I know, but it’s a fact.
I’m not saying you have to treat women terribly to make them feel attraction for you, but you don’t have to cater to a woman’s every need. Women would rather date a poor guy with no money who’s charming, funny, cocky and just a fun date than a guy who’s rich, buy them things and is stuffy and boring.
Women want what women want and you can either be what they want or be what they don’t want, it’s your choice.
For men, have you noticed that when you compliment a girl on her beauty, she shies away from you? But when you add a little disqualification to it, or notice a flaw on her, she gets more involved in the conversation and takes you more seriously.
Okay, have you noticed that girls will get money from some other guy, give him sex like only once, and go to another guy without money and give him sex whenever he wants it.
Here’s a difference, not like Girls like Bad Boys, but bad boys know how to be MEN, Nice guys on the other hand are what we would describe as wussies, door-mats for these ladies to step on.
From my experience, Girls look out for the following in MEN.
1. They want confident men
People think money, muscles get you the girls…. but have you noticed when guys have taken some alcohol, they seem to get more girls. This is because all these things bring up the feeling of confidence. So, women are attracted to confident men, period. Money, muscles, alcohol induce this confidence stature in men, and women fall for it, that’s why you may be tempted to think women want these things. To be confident, you have to fall in love with yourself first and what you have.
2. Men who are Themselves
Women hate hypocritical men, he wants to eat beans on an outing, but he’s acting different because of her. If you want a rolex, take the lead. Women enjoy men who take the lead, stop her by the rolex stand and get your 2 egg rolex and continue with her. Be calm on your first date with her, never be nervous…. it’s a turn-off. Don’t be a goof, show her that you don’t necessarily need her. Some men tend to act needy when out with a woman, they will apologize for everything, and seek approval on everything. Show her that you are you, and this is you, and you don’t give a ‘damn’!
3. Be Cocky and Funny
This is the point I call, joking, complimenting and disqualification. You know what, notice a girl who’s splendid, compliment her on her dress then show her there’s still room for improvement, something like; “What a nice blue dress, BUT it would be wow, if you had lilac jewelry match it.” You praise and disqualify, you tease her.
4. Don’t Get Emotional
Women are people of tests, she can even coin up a stupid assumption that you are cheating on her to see how you handle the whole situation. Once again, fall back to the confidence zone and never get emotional.
5. Live an Active and Full Life
Here’s the problem, many men tend to forget that they had a life before they met a certain girl. They change their dress code and even dump their male friends just to create time for her. This is wrong. If she asks you to meet her on a Tuesday, push it to a Wednesday. It is your schedule and you dictate it. Get a hobby, play a sport, have something that takes you up. Never be too available. You are not her maid, you are her man, there’s a difference.
6. Be Mysterious
Men tend to remove the mystery once they get a girl. But Mystery is what keeps the relationship alive. Your Girlfriend should never know the next card you are about to play. Wake up on a Monday morning and surprise her with an outing to Munyonyo, yes, on a Monday when she expects you to be at work, you surprise her.
Mystery is what makes the relationship fun and worth looking forward to. Never be predictable when dealing with girls. Predictable men get dumped, Mysterious men do the dumping.
7. Have Goals In Life
Women are looking for security, they want to see themselves in your future. They ask themselves, “where is this guy going to be in the next 5 years?” So they want to know how secure their future is if they stick to you. Have some dreams and have goals you are working on.
If you tell her you are jobless, she can’t imagine that when the two of you produce little Ian, he won’t have money for his diapers.
This was my message for MEN’s DAY. It just came a day later….. when the noise had fuzzed out. If you keep confident, mysterious and stuck on your life purpose, the dating world will become your oyster.
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