By Ian Ortega
People keep sending me questions like, “how do you build that amazing social circle?” How do you get to have those people who invite you to those exclusive parties and events? How do you even become the Alpha of your social circle and have an abundant social life?
For starters, I can’t remember when I last forked out money to get myself into a music concert or an event. Not that it’s even about getting complementary tickets, it’s more of people hitting my inbox every now and then with invites to their parties, asking me to grace their events.
If I said YES to every invite I receive, I would literally have no life left to myself. I would spend all my days hoping from one party to another. So, here’s a trick to building your own social circle from scratch and having that abundant social life and social capital.
To build a social circle from scratch and become the center of attraction, here’s what you should do.
First and foremost, it’s not just about having many friends or knowing many people. It’s about being the middle man between these people, being the force that links these people together.
To do that, if you are with one of your friends and you happen to meet another friend along the way, introduce these two people to each other and create rapport for the three of you. If you introduce two people to each other and they get along… BAM! You become a GROUP OF THREE!
Each one will think of YOU whenever they want to go out. Because they know… that the fun is almost guaranteed, because you’re a group now. And groups are almost always more fun.
Add in the opposite sex, and you are having a booming social circle.
Secondly, learn the principle of leverage. Get two of the hottest girls you can imagine in your environment, get closer to them, and if possible, bang them. For ladies, ‘friendzone’ men who have the highest social value in your environment.
The social proof you will get from being friends to these hot babes and to these hunks will see more people getting drawn closer to you.
Then, remember also to get off social media and make real friends. Get someone on Facebook and make it a point to meet them up. If you met at least two of your Facebook friends every week, you would have about 120 real life friends by the end of the year, these will introduce you to more people and voila, your social circle will be expanding.
Finally, remember to have people that matter in your social circle, and don’t just be a parasite to them. Be so valuable to them that they can’t do without you. Some of these people include music artistes, event promoters, club promoters, club bouncers, gym trainers and other celebrities. By having a friend-to-friend connection with these people, you will have access to all their friends and thus you will have the biggest social circle in Uganda.
It can’t get any easier than this. And when you get someone’s phone number, don’t just keep it in the phone, remember to call them up. With that in mind, you will have the biggest social circle.
To gain access to Ortega’s social circle, LIKE ortegaian.com
“Vote for your favourite artistes to win in the #ZZINAwards this April. Visit; www.galaxyfm.co.ug or Vote on your phone by dialling *289*4# and follow prompts. Voting closes on April 26th 2014.”
