If you rush in, you will rush out they say. Racing to get married is dangerous not just for your relationship, but also your own sanity. Here are just a few reasons why you shouldn’t exchange vows too quickly.
1. A marriage is more than a wedding
Sure, you want a day all to yourself to wear a big white dress and be the center of attention, but you have to understand that after that one day, the rest of your life with this other person begins. That’s a really long time. Once you’re done picking out flatware and first dance songs, you’re going to live with this person for good. If you can’t see past the party, you’re not ready for the commitment.
2. It’s desperate
If you’re rushing to get married because you’re scared of being alone, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. Also, you’re more likely to end up with someone who isn’t good for you and treats you poorly, because you haven’t spent enough time to get to know them behind closed doors without anyone else around. Don’t let your desperation blind you to obvious red flags, because what you settle for is ultimately what you’ll get.
3. You’ll make gruesome discoveries
It takes a long time, possibly years, to really get to know the person you’re dating. Getting married after a few months together means you’re still learning things about each other, which may seem to keep the romance interesting, but may make you realize you’re not compatible.
4. You may push your partner away
If you’re pressuring your partner to get married before they are ready, they may just bolt. Not respecting your partner’s wishes or boundaries means you’re not mature enough to be in a relationship. Being aggressive and rushing about spending the rest of your lives together isn’t going to sweeten the pot for them. Likewise, if they’re pressuring you, the same applies: Either slow down or run for the hills.
5. Your problems won’t go away once you’re married
Marriage may make one or both of you briefly happy, but those issues will certainly return. If he doesn’t want kids, wants you to work multiple jobs, or if he won’t stop texting his college girlfriend who makes you feel uneasy, he’s probably not going to change his mind on any of those things later on.
6. Splitting up becomes a lot harder to do
Breaking up is hard to do, but you know what’s even harder to do than that? Divorce. Splits are tough, but divorces bring a lot of paperwork, lawyers, strife, and time with them. If you haven’t been together that long, at least wait until the honeymoon period is over before legally binding yourself to your partner, because breaking that contract is even more hellish than breaking a heart.
Source: Davinadiaries.com
