1. Shouting at him/her in public. If you want to correct your spouse, pull him/her aside.
2. Failing to introduce your spouse in public. Always affirm your spouse’s position in public, say “This is my wife/husband”.
3. Coming home full when your spouse invested time and effort to cook for you. If you know you are eating out, let your spouse know in advance.
4. Treating other people better than you treat your spouse. Your spouse is the special one deserving of your best.
5. Gossiping about your spouse to others. Preserve the dignity of your spouse.
6. Slapping or physically abusing your spouse. No matter how angry you are, do not harm.
7. Insulting your spouse. No matter how angry you are control your tongue.
8. Belittling a gift your spouse gave you. Never make your spouse feel you don’t appreciate his/her efforts.
9. Flirting with others. This shows disrespect to your marriage.
10. Badmouthing your spouse to the child/children. Never project a negative image of dad/mom to the child/children.
11. Treating your spouse like a slave. Love does not humiliate.
12. Talking badly about your spouse’s body. You are responsible for making your spouse feel good about his/her body.
13. Not appreciating your spouse’s contribution just because you do more because you have greater capacity. Love does not keep a score sheet.
14. Praising another above your spouse. Don’t become too familiar with your spouse.
15. Comparing your spouse with your ex. There is a reason why that person is your ex and you’re with your spouse.
16. Failing to see the progress your spouse is making and his/her success. If you will not celebrate your spouse, who will?
17. Sneering, banging doors or walking away when your spouse is talking to you. Never make your spouse feel looked down upon or not listened to.
18. Rudely hanging up on your spouse’s phone call or deliberately ignoring your spouse when your spouse is calling. If you can’t talk or not in the mood to talk or you want some time out, let your spouse know, don’t be rude.
19. Mocking your spouse’s education, upbringing or intelligence. Even when you know more, understand that we all are growing and know some things more and other things less.
20. Mocking your spouse’s sexual performance. Do not destroy the self-esteem of the person you depend on to give you pleasure.
21. Mocking your spouse’s fears and judging them as petty. If something is a big deal to your spouse but not to you be sensitive and understanding.
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