When two people agree to have sex, it is only fair that they both make efforts to make the experience worth it. It may seem difficult or impossible but you don’t need to be a porn pro to give him or her an awesome experience.
All you need is…
Dump the missionary position – variety is the spice of life, even when it comes to sex. You need to be able to do more than the traditional missionary position and go for more daring ones or risk boredom. Learn new positions and execute them together until you master it
Learn to talk dirty – people are turned on by what they hear as much as what they see. So, if you want to vastly increase the sexual satisfaction, then you need to add some dirty talking to the mix – like “I want more” “Yes” or “keep touching me there” or “Yes, Yes” or “Keep Going.” Sometimes you only need more sounds than words. Start by telling your lover what you want to do or want them to do, then what you feel…moans and groans work well too – “I love it”, “Yes, keep going! Harder” or “it feels so good with you inside me” “nothing beats this feeling”. SMSs and phone calls are also included in this. Talking dirty is however not about saying any erotic stupid though e.g. making silly comparison between his penis and a trailer or unrealistic beauty/body compliments.
State your opinions but don’t judge – one mistake people make in the bedroom is judge their partner when it comes to personal choices and fetishes. If your lover wants something you don’t like, simply say you don’t and state why. Going all ballistic and derogatory about it is disrespectful and may close communication between you two forever.
Be open to foreplay – the foreplay stage is very important to the overall enjoyment of sex itself. Kissing, necking and generally making out before tumbling into bed is the best way to go. Gunning straight for penetration is like a sharp rise which will be followed by quick fall as opposed to a gradual, built of emotional trip that heightens, peaks and has an ever more pleasurable denouement.
Know your lover’s turn-ons/fetishes – every person has something that triggers them when it comes to sex and, if you are serious about satisfying your partner sexually the first step is identifying turn-ons. For some, it is seeing your lap, others want a peek of your cleavage or the bulge in your pants, another man just need you to rub his jaw/touch her face while some like kisses on the neck or cheek – it is different for everyone. During sex, you should also know what keeps your partner going – does he like his balls touched, is she an oral-sex addict, does he like his moustache played with or it’s her boobs she likes touched. Knowing these things will help you to up the stakes a lot.
Watch and learn from body language – many people are unwilling to talk much about what and what they do not like in bed so you have to be observant to know anything. To learn, it is okay if you attempt mixing some daring things with the regular things and see how he or she reacts.
Talk about your own turn-ons and fetishes – nothing is better than saying yours and then asking for feedback on their. Once a person knows how far you’re willing to go, he or she would be open to saying even more than you’d expect. Say all the kinky things you want to try with them and the reactions will tell you what and what they likes.
Learn to do the oral – look, it is time to drop the prudish acts and get down and dirty on your lover. There are some pleasures that only an oral move can give and you would be doing wrong to deny your lover of it. Be willing to do oral as part of foreplay, as sex interlude or post sex acts. If you are concerned about hygiene, suggest a shower.
Source: Pulse.ng
