Whether you know it or not, pretty much every move you make affects the way women perceive your confidence level. From how you sit and stand to the way you move your arms and fingers, you’re subconsciously telling them — whether they even realize it or not — that you’re cool as ice … or a quivering puddle of nerves.
In other words, if you know what you’re doing, you can either project actual confidence or fake it.
MAKE YOURSELF LOOK BIGGER
Confident people take up space, so even if you’re as tiny as Mini-Me, you need to puff yourself up. “Spread your body out,” Driver says. “If you’re seated on a stool, put your ankle across your knee instead of having both legs on the stool. If you’re standing, have one hand on your hip and the other pressing against a wall, the bar, or a chair.”
TOUCH HER
Harmless touching during conversation — like brushing her arm after she tells a joke — lets her know you’re interested. So don’t clam up. “Put your foot on the bottom rung of her stool or touch the back of her chair,” Driver suggests. “But if she suddenly starts closing up, your confidence is too strong for her and you either need to create a little space or uncross your legs, put a coat over your lap, and hide your manpower.” (Another tip: Your manpower should also already be hidden by pants.)
LEARN ‘THE CHIN MOVE’
Here’s a way to keep pace with a woman who’s smarter than you: “When someone’s telling you stuff that’s way over your head, simply hold onto your chin as you’re nodding your head slightly,” Driver advises. “This is something Steve Jobs used to do. It makes you appear super confident and very intelligent.”
Want to ramp it up even more? Tilt your head. “When you’re listening, tilt your head toward your left shoulder if you want to look more intelligent, and to your right shoulder if you want to look more attractive,” she says. Sound like BS? It isn’t — Driver is a body language Jedi.
PUT YOUR HANDS IN YOUR POCKETS
Crossing your arms gives off a perception that you’re apprehensive and prissy, but putting your hands in your pockets can have the opposite affect. “When you have your hands in your pockets and you’re hiding your thumbs, you send the message that you need reassurance,” Driver reveals. “If you put your hands in your pockets, make sure your thumbs are out and pointing to your naughty bits.”
STEEPLING
Touching your fingertips together like Mr. Burns in an almost prayer-like gesture is called steepling, a move that Driver explains can kill your mojo. “Donald Trump does this a lot,” Driver tells us. “It’s great for the boardroom, but the kiss of death in a barroom or bedroom. You come across as a judgmental prick.”
KEEP YOUR HANDS IN VIEW WHILE SEATED
Steepling may be like Kryptonite to women, but you should let them see your mitts when you’re sitting. “Watch Piers Morgan — he has both hands spread out on the table, and that displays massive confidence,” Driver says. “So pop an elbow on the back of your chair and have your other hand stretched out across the table.”
MIRROR HER BODY LANGUAGE
Sometimes you’re off your game, but that doesn’t mean you have to lose her attention. Try mirroring her mannerisms to make up ground if you’ve hit a communication snag. “Mirroring her posture and her body rhythms sends the message that you’re in sync,” Driver says. “So if her hands are folded on the table, put your hands on the table and fold them; if she’s leaning back, you lean back; if she’s tapping a pen, move your foot to the same rhythm.”
Source: Modernman