Change they say, is constant.
I assure you, I have heard the saying, ” You can’t change anyone”…I used to believe that until I had a reason to doubt it… They also say stuff like “Once a cheat always a cheat” etc.
I do believe Love changes people.
Turning him to a Husband material is all about touching certain spots in him so much so that IF something happens and you’re no longer together, he never forgets you- You Left An Indelible Mark In His Heart.
How Can You Turn Him To A Husband Material?
1. Keep Your Standards Genuinely High
Most ladies think that “giving up your standards for him is one of those things love should cost you…No! In fact, giving up your standards shows that all ladies are the same and both of you (you and him) are just the same meaning- you can’t positively affect him and fix his challenge. If your stand is no s*x, don’t lower it to touchings…Keep it high- WE WILL HATE YOU AT FIRST BUT THEN YOU WILL JUST BE ONE SHINING DIAMOND in the sky . If you’re doing it with some other guy, it won’t be long, he’ll find out.
2. Be Real With Him At All Times- Express Emotions Sometimes.
Don’t be too firm and resolute. Be emotional occasionally. Trying to impress him isn’t the key. I had a lady then who shed tears just because some folks she was leading were so recalcitrant- As she wept, I loved her more- I can’t explain it but I saw reality in her.
Being real with him means you have to always open up when you’re not comfortable with something but in a mature/ mild way.
3. Lead Him To Believe In The Supernatural.
Especially, if he doesn’t believe in God…
The Supernatural is inexplicable using the human mind. There is just something when a girl invites a guy to her Church. He may be a whizz in natural life and work but he feels inept in this area…How do you feel when you see him turning to Genesis when the pastor told them to open to Hebrews? He can’t forget you…
4. Don’t Put Money As Top Priority
Putting money as top priority makes you like the rest of ‘em…If he asks you to cook for him, try as much as possible to do so much with just little- hard right? Try to…You may not have a second chance to make a first impression. Some girls even give…You love him, you see his potentials, isn’t it wise to sow a seed or two? Don’t say, he’ll leave you when things get better, not when put all the 7 points to practice.
5. Be Committed In Checking Up On His Goals In Life.
Find out what matters most to him- his vision, goals, purpose etc. Ask him about it and once in a while remind him… Insist that he go look for a job, sends his CV to so and so… Every guy still have baby tendencies- being like a mother to them energizes them.
6. Teach Him And Make Him Look Like The Teacher.
Mothers are life mentors. So are Real Ladies. Teaching a guy, you need to be wise, especially when you’re not trying to be selfish. I do this a lot to girls. In teaching, ask questions, suggest…It’s not inferiority, it’s courtesy, respect and regard.
7. If You Don’t Agree With A Certain Behavior Of His, Create An Avenue For Him To Correct It.
He didn’t call you on your birthday. Call him and insist that he calls you immediately. Don’t take it too personal. He still loves you nonetheless. By doing so, you’re standing out as a Big Girl and not a Spoilt Brat.
This thread does not promise you that he will change but …You will change…
Love changes people in amazing ways. You haven’t experienced it doesn’t falsify these points… Maybe you have to put these to practice thus enhancing your chances of even finding the guy who won’t be a tough but to crack.
NB: These points can also be followed in a PLATONIC relationship, not only in a LOVE relationship.
Source: Nairaland
