Men have a rep of being randy all day, every day. But—and this isn’t news to you women are pretty lustful too. A survey by Elite Singles revealed that 65 percent of women and 69 percent of men think having sex several times per week is ideal. Too bad that isn’t the case: Most couples in their twenties and thirties are knocking boots once a week or a few times a month, reports the Kinsey Institute.
So why aren’t we setting the sheets on fire more often? Blame our busy schedules. Studies have found that couples prioritize things like sleep and work ahead of sex–leaving barely any time to eat dinner together, let alone have a 30-minute sack session. These sexless nights can have serious ramifications for the quality of satisfaction and intimacy in your relationship. A study suggests that the more you and your partner’s sexual desires aren’t met, the more you’re likely to fight and feel dissatisfied with your union.
But there’s an easy, convenient, and pleasure-filled solution: the quickie. It’s all about fast, hot, unbridled passion, and who wouldn’t want to make time for that? With little foreplay (or concern about taking off all your clothes), the encounter can take even less time than it would to queue up your sexy-music playlist. Bonus: You can still get the health benefits of longer sex sessions. “Sex is a physical activity, so I recommend you do it as often as you can for exercise, but it also helps you relax and adds to your bond as a couple,” says Harry Fisch, M.D., a urologist and reproductive medicine specialist at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital and author of The New Naked. Quickies can also inject some spontaneous passion into your relationship. “Sometimes women want to be taken,” says Fisch. “And if that’s what you want, then a quickie is excellent.” It’s just as ideal if you want to be the taker as well.
What’s more, if you have trouble orgasming through intercourse alone, you can still experience the rush of adrenaline and oxytocin, your body’s feel-good hormone, that comes with a sexy hookup at, say, the kitchen sink while unloading the groceries. So are you game for exciting satisfaction in minimal time? Read on for some helpful tips.
Lead with Your Head
Arousal starts in the mind, so drumming up excitement before your quick tryst will help you feel desperate for sex. Send a private, naughty text to your guy to give him a taste of what’s to come the next time you see each other. “It’s a great way to flirt,” says sex expert Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author ofShe Comes First.
Not comfortable sending X-rated messages? According to Olivia Baniuszewicz, coauthor of Flirtexting, a more cheeky text (like “I can’t wait to rip your clothes off”) could spell out what you want to do to him. Later, when you’re together, make sure you put your phone down: A study in theJournal of Sexual Medicine found that when women ignore distractions (phone, TV, laptop), they can start to become aroused in 30 seconds.
Be Novel with Locations
When we polled WH readers, 39 percent admitted they’d like to have a quick one on the beach; the next most popular sites were a hot tub, an open field, and the restroom of a restaurant or nightclub. New and relatively safe places like these can get you both steamy in seconds, since unfamiliar surroundings can awaken your senses. Plus, they can add a very hot sense of urgency.
“The brain is the biggest sex organ, and anytime you try something new, you’re stimulating the brain’s appetite for novelty,” explains Kerner. But use good judgment (and make sure to follow the law) when choosing a spot. And be on the lookout for passersby, creeps with cameras (you don’t want to end up on YouTube)—and, er, the police. If you’re not ready to be so risky, pick an empty room (with a lockable door) at a party or other private event.
Get Slippery
Lubrication is your body’s way of telling you that you’re turned on—but it can take time to get flowing. “Nearly all women need some added lubrication at one time or another, regardless of their age,” says Fisch, who suggests having a water-based formula on hand. Just a little can get you raring to go instantly, reducing awkward or painful friction. In fact, women who used lube during the deed reported significantly higher levels of satisfaction and pleasure compared with those who didn’t, according to a study by Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion.
Take the Direct Route
Don’t waste time getting into complicated, acrobatic-like positions (save those for longer, more experimental sessions). For instance, if you feel the urge to have sex when you first wake up, simply spoon with your man (so that you’re facing away from him) and guide him inside you. Trust us, he won’t mind.
Not in bed? Doggie-style can be done in many locations and deliver lightning-fast orgasms for you and deep penetration for him. If you’ve chosen a firm surface (like a table or desk), missionary position is perfect for clitoral stimulation by his pubic bone area. Or try stand-up sex, and have him reach down and touch you as he thrusts, to send you over the edge in record time.
Source: Women’sHealth