Today’s woman has forgotten how to keep a man. The divorce rate globally is skyrocketing. A few decades ago, the lifelong goal of most women was to get married to a good man and raise a family.
Now, amidst the hunger for a career, equality, affirmative action and equal opportunity, this classic idea of the homemaker is almost a forgotten career choice.
It is no wonder that Kenyan legislators (obviously male dominated) passed a new law allowing polygamy. Well, whether you have been hunting without success, struggling to keep your man, trying to get your man back or even trying to be a second or third wife, there are a few lies that every man wants to hear.
1. Please, Thank You ,I am Sorry
Standard British etiquette works. Everywhere.
Use it, even if you don’t really mean it.
Manners set you apart from all the other ratchet chicks he’s been hanging out with, makes you classy, special.
2. You make me laugh
Every man has been told the fable that women laugh at jokes told by men they like, good or not.
“You make me laugh” is a trigger, tells him, I like you, he has been conditioned to believe this is so.
3. This is Steve, Steve meet my friend George
This is when you are with the A man, and you need to introduce him to the other man in your life. Or your friend. Or whatever.
From Steve’s perspective, you called him by his name, and made the other man “the friend”, declaring him the winner of the cock fight, at least for that moment.
4. You are so different
LOL. I never understand why men buy this one.
But all men like being told they are sooooooooo different from other men, they are special, unique.
He feels selected, chosen, elevated, placed on your pedestal.
5. You make me feel so comfortable
This has psychologically been proven to trigger a sense of long term passion.
Pick your moment to use this line very carefully; as it sends some packing if said too soon, said just right and you have him for life.
6. No one else makes me feel this way
Use sparingly.
This can evoke vigorous emotions and untold reactions in some men.
Say it in bed as well. Say it once. He will remember it forever.
7. I have never ….
I have never … is a very simple but extremely effective game to play.
Run with it as far as you can!
Make it seem like you are Africa and he is Livingstone or Speke, he discovered all the rivers and the mountains, the hills, valleys and lakes, forget about all the others that have been running around everywhere.
Take him to your local introduce him to your favorite waiter. Claim to have never introduced anyone else.
He came by at the salon you told your favorite hairdresser his name, claim you have never let any other man see you at the salon.
He meets you up with the girls and you told every one who he is, claim you have never let anyone meet your friends but he is different, he makes you feel comfortable and no one else makes you feel that way.
Get the idea?
This makes him feel special, stroke his ego.
8. Thinking of you
Men are dogs, they need training. Pavlov’s dog was trained through repetitive triggers.
Train your man the same way.
For example, if you want him to always think of you at 8 pm every day, for two weeks, every other day at exactly 8 PM, send him the text, “Thinking of You”.
By the end of the second week of doing this, he will always think of you at 8:0 1 whether he wants to or not.
9. I have had a wonderful time
He wants to satisfy you. The illusion that he makes you happy makes him happy.
10. Wasn’t it you I told that story?
Sadly, men always, eventually, get comfortable.
This lie is to stir things up.
When he’s been getting some on the regular and is getting lazy as all men do, he begins to slip up.
Even though the two of you may have been in your honeymoon phase and have been inseparable, the idea that you have shared tales with another man and he is so close to you as to impress a resemblance between them will jolt him to some form of action.
11. I’m not mad
This one is about restraint.
You go out and he is checking out the competition? Don’t say a word about it, don’t be mad.
That ish will Mess. Him. Up.
12. I am so confused
This is especially true when you are being chased by other men.
It is closely followed by I have a lot on my mind.
These ones buy you time momentarily but be careful, they may not hold out for too long.
This lie strings him along as you decide what to do.
13. You Made Me This Way
And after all is said and done, he still needs to feel like he was the centre of your existence.
All the things you are now, he made you that way.
This lie can evoke responsibility, and comebacks…
13. You’re the best
Most people think this is the right thing to say during the relationship.
But men know this may not be true, and may stir insecurity instead.
This lie is best used after its over, and you want to keep ties.
He believes this lie at this point.
He thinks you have evaluated the relationship from outside its confines, and without selfishness, crowned him the best.
Lie with your body and mind. Remember, the heart is not so smart.
Source: Vibe Weekly
