Media personality and DJ, Zahara Totto, known for her controversial opinions and vibrant presence, recently opened up about her regrets regarding giving birth at a young age. In a heartfelt conversation with a local media outlet, Totto shared her personal experiences and offered advice to young girls navigating the complexities of relationships and motherhood.
Totto emphasized the importance of patience and caution, urging young women not to rush into marriage or parenthood. She candidly admitted that her decision to become a mother at a young age was a mistake she continues to regret. Expressing astonishment that no one had warned her against it, she urged others to learn from her experience.
“One of the biggest mistakes of my life was rushing into motherhood,” Totto revealed. “It’s absurd that nobody ever advised me against it.”
Drawing from her own journey, Totto cautioned against the misconception that having a child would solidify a relationship. She highlighted the harsh reality that pregnancy often reveals the true nature of a partner, with some women facing abandonment or mistreatment.
“The instant you get pregnant is the day you get to know the real colors of the man,” she asserted. “Some women have been dumped for getting pregnant.”
Totto spoke out against the psychological toll inflicted on women by irresponsible partners, who abandon them to shoulder the burdens of parenthood alone. Her message resonated with many who have faced similar challenges, shedding light on the importance of making informed decisions and choosing supportive partners.
“Women should go slow, analyze, and make the right choices,” Totto advised. “They can always get married and give birth at any age, but with the right man.”
In addition to her insights on motherhood and relationships, Totto addressed the consequences of skipping life stages. She warned against the pitfalls of seeking validation or companionship from older or younger partners, emphasizing the importance of embracing each stage of life in its own time.
Many women have been dumped by men the moment they get married. They have to toggle the pregnancy challenges alone. Men make us go through a lot mentally. So girls take your time and the right man will find you. Besides, skipping stages in life will always catch up with you. That’s why you see some women in their old age flirting around with young boys. When they were supposed to be dating their age mates, they happened to be going out with older men.
Zahara Totto
