According to a leading internet divorce and separation resource website- 50-60% of committed men and 45-50% of committed women engage in extramarital affairs at some point in their relationships. No, we are not trying to scare you by these statistics, but just making you more aware of certain facts.
We all know that a strong relationship is based on love, trust and understanding. However, there may have been occasions, where you felt that your spouse was hiding things from you. Does that mean, he/she is cheating on you? Follow these tricks to get the right clues to your question.
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1. Put on your ‘Thinking Cap’
You asked your partner a simple question ‘Why he/she comes late at home? And, there comes the most elaborate reply on it. Not just this, they are also ready with a solid alibi, with friends to back them up on this. Just Think, why your partner is trying to prove innocence over something so small? Also, honest people do not need their colleagues or friends to intervene on their behalf.
2. Listen carefully
If your partner is hiding things, then he/she will have a long, intricate story to tell you. A liar will go on and on giving unnecessary and unwanted details about the story. They will answer you in such a way that will leave no room for you to ask further questions. Now, here is the catch, if a person is honest, he/she will directly speak the truth. People who speak truth have no time to intricately weave in hundreds of little details.
3. Body language
We do not have control over our reactions as mostly our physical reactions come from our subconscious. So, when you ask something to him/her, the person subconsciously starts building words that would convince you the best. So, watch the facial expressions. Usually liars with their focus on cooking a good story are unable to hide their expressions which include
Fidgeting.
Starts scratching head.
Makes no eye-contact.
Grabbing a newspaper to hide face.
Switches on the TV.
Just give a careful look to above expressions, and you will see the hidden nervousness easily.
4. Ask the ‘Question’ again
Sometimes we have smart cheats around. They might get successful in convincing you with a story. To catch such people, after a period of time just ask your partner about the same details you asked before. This time you will see some inconsistency in the response. There will be new facts and different elements in the narrative. Watch out for ‘don’t you trust me?’ ‘Are you trying to say I am a liar?’, such lines are just to give you guilt traps, nothing else. Do not fall for them!
5. Actions needed on regular basis:
Check odometer: You can check this before and after the trip, to see, if the mileage correlates to where your partner says he/she has been.
Credit Card Details: Look for the charges of hotels, shopping, boutiques etc. Match the dates with the calendar to see, those items were bought for you or someone else.
Look at the Clothes: Is there a sudden change in his sense of dressing? Is she doing too much of lingerie shopping?
Many marriages and relationships fail due to infidelity. Remember, do not accuse your partner unless you have strong proof. Give your suspect a lot of scope and situations to make errors. There might be chances that your instincts are true.
Source: Daily Graphic
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