Masturbation is a fabulous solo activity. For many, it remains a solo act because you don’t want anyone to see how you masturbate or think it’s something people only do alone, to tide them over or as a tool to deal with differing sex drives in your relationship. So why try what can be an intimidating and vulnerable activity? Is it really worth revealing that you hump a pillow or twist your body just so or make silly faces? Absofrickinglutely!
1. It’s super intimate
Mutual masturbation is more intimate than “regular” sex (a.k.a. vaginal intercourse). Not only does it require the same vulnerability as sex but you’re also sharing something that before now has been just for you. Plus, it’s harder to lose yourself in the moment when your unique self-pleasure practices are on display.
Here’s the thing though: Intimacy and vulnerability are inextricably linked. You cannot have the former without the latter. That means since mutual masturbation can feel vulnerable, it also will connect you and your sweetie on an ever deeper level. No matter how long you’ve been together, you want that for sure!
2. It’s hot AF
If you’ve watched porn or read erotica while masturbating, you know what I’m talking about. Except mutual masturbation is even sexier. That’s because it’s IRL and just for you. Watching the person you love and are ridiculously attracted to bring themselves pleasure is the ultimate visual treat.
3. It reveals your technique
Most people climax when they masturbate, even if you struggle otherwise. It’s one of the most popular reasons people touch themselves! Mutual masturbation is you and your partner’s chance to see exactly how that happens for each of you. Feel like you can never get your honey there with [insert sexy time act here], even with instructions? Pay attention!
4. It’ll inspire endless fantasies for later solo self-pleasure sessions
And you can never have too many of those.
5. It’s faster than intercourse
Let’s say you’re in the mood, but it’s already midnight, and one or both of you need to wake up in fewer hours than you care to admit. You want to get it on but legit don’t have the time or energy. The struggle is real. Mutual masturbation to the rescue! Kiss a little throughout, lend a hand and 10 minutes later, you’ll both be blissfully headed to orgasm-induced dreamland.
6. Health benefits galore
Sex, masturbation and orgasm have tons of health benefits. That means mutual masturbation does too! Since masturbation, solo or mutual, is more likely to lead to orgasm, you reap the extra benefits like—Lower stress, better sleep, clearer skin and a happier mood.
Source: Sheknows.com