Laura Lifshitz of Huffington Post gives some tips on how to handle your Ex’s new partner especially when you both parted on bad terms:
It’s not a race. I haven’t met anyone yet, but it’s not a race. I will meet someone when I am ready. And let’s face it: I could go on dates all the time if I just settled. So could all of us. But I am saving myself for people who will add to my life and not drain me. I don’t need to be completed. I am complete on my own. I need to be complemented and so do all of you!
Don’t Borrow Trouble Where There is None: You may be fearing the worst about your ex’s new partner but the fact is you’re only creating problems where there are none. If a problem comes up, deal with it. Until then, give this person the benefit of the doubt. Remember: you may end up being in this person’s shoes! You could be the new boyfriend or girlfriend to a person who’s divorced!
You Don’t Know How Happy Your Ex Is: Your ex could be all s__ts and giggles, but behind closed doors his or her new relationship can be doomed from the start. And even if he or she is totally happy, this doesn’t mean that you will never be happy with someone again.
Some People MUST Have Someone: Some people cannot be single. I have friends or have had friends in the past who must have a boyfriend or girlfriend. This doesn’t mean they’re having good relationships. In fact typically, they were rushing into bad situations. There is a difference between being alone and lonely. They’re not one in the same.
Take it as a Good Sign: If your ex has moved on, it’s only a matter of time before your time will come.
Being Coupled Isn’t Everything: When you’re single you have a lot of freedoms that your partnered friends don’t have. You also don’t have to deal with arguing and other BS. Hallelujah!
The New Partner is Probably As Anxious About the Possibility of Meeting You as You Are Meeting Him/Her:You’re the ex. Meeting the ex is nerve wracking.
Maybe it Won’t Be So Bad: Maybe you’ll love the new partner!
New Partner Now Gets to Deal With Stuff You Didn’t Want to From Your Ex: Are you really that sad now? I think not. Whether I meet this woman or not, I hope she approaches me with an open mind. I know I will do my best. It’s tough when you think of someone else around your kids and it won’t be easy for me I already know, but I am hoping for the best. That’s the hardest part: knowing my daughter could be around someone I didn’t choose, but like all the challenges of divorce, I will hope for the best.
Source: Pulse.ng
