There are many things you need to consider before you extend a hand of friendship to an ex. Get these wrong and one of you may just try slipping a hand somewhere else.
#1 You’re single and the sex was awesome
Let’s face it. Sometimes, you may have a terrible emotional connection with your ex. But the sex could have been awesome. No harm’s ever come off two exes turned sex buddies with no emotional connection. But do put an end to it when you think you’re ready for a real relationship.
#2 When there’s mutual back scratching
Both of you may have drawn swords out while you were in the relationship. But now that it’s over, do both of you need each other for emotional support or to succeed in life? Do you work together or have a few sticky situations that need both of you to stay friends?
#3 Both of you are like siblings
If you were in a relationship where sex was nonexistent, then you should have no problems being friends. After all, sexual attraction is the biggest distraction for exes trying to be friends. Get that out of the way, and you can be friends or even siblings!
#4 It’s a happy breakup
Well, happy may be an exaggeration here. But did both of you break up mutually because both of you felt like the relationship wasn’t giving the happiness that both of you deserved? Mutual and happy breakups are easy to turn into friendship.
#5 The sexual tension’s dropped
Both of you may have been in a long term relationship, and after a while, the sex may have started to feel more like a weekly or monthly chore than pleasure. If you’ve just broken up from a relationship where you’re more attracted to someone else than your partner, it’s safe to buy each other friendship bands.
#6 A lot of common friends
If both of you share a lot of common friends and don’t really want to separate your friends or create an awkward get-together when you bump into your ex, perhaps it’s better off staying friends. Of course, you can still stay friends and keep your distance, can’t you?
#7 You go bumping all the time
Do you work in the same office? Do you live next to each other or are both of you neighbors? If you find that you have no option but to meet each other all the time, perhaps it’s better to raise a peace flag and friend each other on facebook. You could just wave or say ‘hi’, or even have a conversation once in a while.
#8 When you’ve got a lot to gain
Have you just broken up with your boss, or someone who can potentially give you a leg up or open a lot of big doors in your life? This is just dirty and you’re being friends for all the wrong reasons, but hey, this is life. If you can work for someone you hate, can’t you stay friends with your ex?
Source: Lovepanky.com
