Many young women have dreams of how their weddings should look like forgetting that the ceremony only lasts for a day then the marriage begins afterwards.
This fairytale dream often leads young women into rushing down the aisle a little too soon instead of weighing the pros and cons of getting married at that point.
Diana Trotter of Binoni gives few reasons why women shouldn’t get married too early:
Time to find yourself: Your early to mid twenties are a time for you to discover who you really are and where you see your future taking you. Take time for you; explore different hobbies, create your own business, and make a name for yourself. This is one of the surefire reasons not to get married too young; you don’t want to start a family when you still need time to grow up yourself.
More chances to travel: If you love traveling and finding new places, then this may be a reason not to get married too young. Getting married doesn’t mean that you won’t travel, but when you buy a house, a bigger car, and start growing a family, traveling expenses get put on the back burner. Travel together as much as you can and see all there is to see before making the choice to say, ‘I Do.’
Learn how to depend on yourself: It’s nice to have that feeling that someone is there for you, but you don’t want to take advantage of them. Be in control of your life; a reason not to get married too young is so you can learn how to depend on yourself. In the future you won’t need to call up your spouse when the sink is leaking, when you need to hang a photo on the wall, or if there is a mouse running wild through your house! Learn to be a Do It Yourself kind of woman.
Being okay with being alone: Are you someone who jumps into a relationship right after one has ended? If you hate being alone and just want someone to want you, well this is a very good reason not to get married too young. Along with learning how to depend on yourself, you need to learn how to stand on your own and be okay with being alone. A marriage isn’t going to fix what’s wrong inside, seek counseling if you need someone to talk to and listen.
Strong career woman: If you want to start your own business, are going to school to become a doctor, a lawyer, or something else that is going to take up a lot of your time, then you may not want to get married too young. You shouldn’t put yourself or your spouse in a place of feeling guilty or feeling alone because you are working at the “office” late at night or on the weekends.
You enjoy ladies’ night: This isn’t to say that married women don’t enjoy ladies’ night, but sometimes young men get a little too jealous. So if you aren’t into that whole, “You can’t go out with your friends” jealous rage, this would probably be a reason not to get married too young.
You got pregnant out of wedlock: There are too many girls who don’t realize that this is a reason not to get married too young. They actually think the opposite and believe that if you end up pregnant out of wedlock, then you should definitely marry your baby’s daddy! Having an accidental pregnancy with someone doesn’t automatically make mom and dad compatible, it means that you weren’t thinking. Don’t make the situation more difficult by jumping into a loveless marriage.
You are the caretaker type: Do you always look for someone to take care of or look for someone who is damaged and needs help? If you are the caretaker type who gets taken advantage of, then this is a reason not to get married too young. Don’t rush into marriage because this person “needs you.” Marriage should be about two people who are in love and respect each other.
Source: Pulse.ng
