There are always tons of advice for couples on how to increase intimacy. They usually focus on telling each partner how to get the other in the mood. Because face it, most couples want more love making in their marriages….some more than others. But instead of waiting on our partners to get us in the mood, what if we took ownership of getting ourselves in the mood to create more intimate moments in our relationships? Since both partners want to feel desired it’s only fair that each partner takes turn initiating s*x.
In order to get things heated we first have to want it. Unfortunately stress and exhaustion frequently show up and affect our bedroom behavior. However, the more control we take of our love life, the better our marriage will be. If you’re struggling to muster up the desire for your mate, here are five tips to help get you in the mood:
1. Wear something that exudes sexiness for you.
Usually the least amount of clothes you wear the better. Whether its lingerie or an over-sized t-shirt with nothing underneath, it should make you feel more desirable. The better you feel the greater the opportunity you’ll get things started.
2. Watch a passionate clip or movie that makes you feel some kind of way.
There are many couples who need visual stimuli. If you’re that person, don’t feel guilty. Find the one that really gets you excited and unleash that excitement on your spouse.
3. Clear your mind of general life clutter and focus on your partner.
Picture yourself anywhere other than work, school or with the children. Meditation and being still helps quiet your spirit and allows you the opportunity to focus on something more important.
4. Indulge in some steamy fiction.
Authors like Zane and E.L. James will definitely change your mind and get you in the mood for love making.
5. Eat more oysters and sniff more jasmine
Research foods and scents known for their ability to sexually arouse. You will also find scents like vanilla and musk as well as foods like celery and almonds on that list.
Source: Information Nigeria
