Using your fingers to give a woman pleasure is one act employed by a lot of men. While some are so good at it that they bring women to orgasm, others still cannot understand where they are going wrong.
Here are four fingering rules you need to follow to get the best out of this move.
1. It is not just about sticking your fingers in and out
The kind of “fingering” that actually brings women to orgasm is rubbing of the outside area around the clit. In fact, that’s how most women masturbate, because it’s what actually feels the best. For the vast majority of women, penetration is nice, but it’s kind of like rubbing your balls: Pleasant, but not going to make you come.
2. Every woman is different
There’s no “one move fits all” technique that’s going to do the trick — and anyone who tells you differently is lying. Most guys who think they have “the move” are usually worst at giving pleasure. The mentality of “one move to finish them all” makes sense to men, since moves like stroking and sucking work for almost all guys. But for women, it’s truly different strokes for different folks. The clit is so sensitive that some strokes can feel really uncomfortable or even hurt certain women. Meaning, if some move felt really good for your ex-girlfriend, that doesn’t mean it’ll do the trick for your next girlfriend.
3. Hard and fast is not the way to go
Porn that shows women getting rubbed out typically portrays a hard and fast back and forth motion. However, that kind of super fast cadence and pressure directly on the clit only feels good for 1 in 48 women. For the rest, it either doesn’t feel great or actually hurts. To put it into perspective, imagine someone taking your dick and rubbing the tip really hard with their palm as fast as they can. It’s a sharp painful tickle, and you want it to stop. For the vast majority of women, it’s not a good move – even if women in porn are pretending to like it.
4. It is not just for foreplay
It’s a true fact that very few women get off by way of penetration alone. A recent study showed thagt 72% of women need their clit stimulated during intercourse in order to reach orgasm. Meaning, lending a helping hand to your lady’s most sensitive part during intercourse is going to lead to more orgasms. In fact, the resounding sentiment from the study was that the clit gets attention paid to here and there, but most women would prefer to have it touched throughout the act.
Source: Pulse.ng