Follow these steps to know how to recover quickly from a heartbreaking breakup so you can function again — sooner rather than later:
1. Don’t take rejection as a reflection of your own self worth.
In one study, some people drew much weaker connections between rejection and them selves. They described rejection as an arbitrary and unpredictable force rather than the result of some personal flaw.
Remove yourself from the equation and understand that rejection happens. Failure happens. It’s a part of life and growth. Not every relationship is mean to be, sometimes they are just meant to teach you something.
2. Understand that your ex’s choices and failures are not your own.
He didn’t do this to you. This is just what he does. It’s not that he didn’t choose you, he just chose another path. He didn’t fight for you, he most likely doesn’t fight for other things in his life.
You are not an isolated incident. You are not to be burdened by his faults. They are no reflection on who you are or how hard you tried.
It doesn’t matter how you showed up, you can’t change or fix a person unless they want that change.
3. See the breakup as an opportunity for growth.
Understand that you are not confined to living as the person that you are today, forever. You can learn and grow from this experience.
The story can easily end with, “I didn’t trust him. I guess I’m just not good at trusting people and therefore will never have a good relationship.” Instead, learn from it. “I didn’t trust him. Why do I not trust people? I will figure that out and next time I will trust my partner and have a better relationship.”
Source: Yourtango.com
