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3 Things You Should Never Ever Do In An Argument With Your Partner

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The best marriages and relationships are going to have arguments and disagreements. Many times, the arguments take on a life of their own because we get frustrated to the point that we hit below the belt.

We have to remember that ultimately we are in each other’s corner and, although this is an argument, we don’t want to say things that are hurtful or scathing which affect how we feel about each other.

Arguing is acceptable, but we have to fight fair. We want to address issues with the purpose of resolving the issue, not making the other person feel inadequate or inferior.

There are certain phrases we can’t say or words we can’t use in an argument. Here are three things we can’t say when we are arguing with our spouse or significant other:

Don’t Say “You always” or “You never”

When we get upset, we tend to speak to our spouses as though the thing that has upset us is a constant irritation the person does incessantly. This simply isn’t true.

Saying “You never take out the trash,” or “You always take their side” is simply an inflammatory statement that adds more fuel to the argument instead of working toward a resolution. We often have much more time together where we enjoy each other’s company.

No one is always doing any one thing. Step back and say what is bothering you in the moment, specifically, to work through this particular situation. Emphasize your frustration by telling the person exactly what they have done and how it hurt you—rather than by exaggerating the action itself.

Don’t Call Anyone Out of Their Names

Calling someone anything other than their name in an argument is unacceptable. Frustration gets the best of all of us, but it is our job and responsibility to not call people we love a name unbecoming to them.

Obvious things like the b-word or something of that nature should never be uttered, but using words like slacker, loser, deadbeat or failure are just as hurtful. We have to remember at the end of the day, we want to work through our problems together and name-calling is counterproductive to conflict resolution.

You hurt your spouse, you tear down their self-esteem and you can make them feel worse than they deserve to feel from someone who says they love them and should be lifting them up. Name calling of any sort is not okay in an argument.

Don’t Patronize or Mock Your Mate

I’m sure you have heard someone say “don’t patronize me.” Move this up to the tenth power in an argument. The quickest way to get someone to tune you out is to patronize.

“Let me explain this in a way you can understand,”
“I used to think that way when I was young,”
or “That’s what I would expect a woman to say.”
These ways of categorizing what you think of what someone is trying to share with you instead of valuing the opinion of the person who is talking to you is an example of someone who doesn’t want to work together to resolve a situation.

When we patronize during an argument, we’re effectively communicating we don’t value what the other person is saying. Instead of patronizing, listen, internalize and effectively respond to what the other person says.

Patronizing your spouse or significant other speaks to both the lack of interest in the argument and how little you care about their opinion. There’s no place for patronizing in disagreements with people we love and respect.

Arguments can be healthy opportunities to grow. Take the time to respect the other person, even when you are frustrated, but still accept the responsibility to fight fair and respect each other during and after the argument is over. The mutual respect makes it easier to make up with your spouse—which is the best part!

Source: Lifestyle.ng

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Bruno K joins fans to celebrate NTV’s Faridah Nakazibwe on her 36th birthday

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Today 18th August 18, 2020 renowned media personality Faridah Nakazibwe turns a year older in a funky and optimistic mood.

Birthday messages from friends, family and fans having making rounds left, right and centre as they celebrate the renown news anchor.

Well, for Faridah’s case focus has entirely been on singer Bruno K who has been tight with the NTV presenter for sometime now.

Bruno K was among the first people to mark this day special with a special message from his heart straight to Faridah’s.

In his message, Bruno testifies how exceptional Faridah is to his life with her eyes reveal wisdom every time and lips utter heart-warming words.

Bruno also notes that Faridah’s heart describes tenderness and she is such a generous woman.

Here is Bruno K’s message;

Today, I want you to know how special you are to me. Your eyes show the wisdom of your life. Your lips speak the lovely words of a kind and generous woman. And, your heart shows empathy beyond measure. Happy birthday Faridah Nakazibwe.

Nevertheless, Bruno’s controversial birthday message to Faridah is supplementary to rumors of a secret affair between them that commenced after he recorded a song dubbed ‘Faridah’ for the ‘NTV Mwasuze Mutya’ show host.

At the age of 36, Faridah is intellectually challenging, ambitious, empathetic, honest and genuine and these have earned her remarkable respect in the industry compared to others in the same business.

About Faridah’s early life and education:

Faridah Nakazibwe was born to the late Hajj Shakib Ssenyonjo and Hajat Sarah Ssenyonjo, in what is present-day Sembabule district.

She is the second-born in a family of eight siblings.

She attended Kisozi Boarding Primary School, in Kisozi, Gomba district for her early primary education.

When the land hosting her school was acquired by president Yoweri Kaguta Museveni and converted into Kisozi Cattle Ranch, Faridah transferred to Bwala Primary School, in the town of Masaka, where she obtained her primary school leaving certificate.

Later, her family relocated to Masaka town.

Happy birthday Faridah!

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Tina Fierce mocks Sheilah Gashumba over break-up with Gods Plan

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Former Urban TV presenter, Christine Karungi aka Tina Fierce is at cloud nine following the news of her longtime tormentors, Sheilah Gashumba and boyfriend GodsPlan breakup.

Tina whose ‘Scoop on Scoop’ show was suspended in June this year after the formerly ‘Power couple’ filed case of cyberbullying against her, has clapped back happily for the ruined relationship.

In one of her latest social media posts, Tina is proud of her predictions of what she dubs “The Husband beater’s” current darkness.

I‘ve a few predictions to make…. nanti mugamba i give accurate predictions Face with tears of joy Face with tears of joy Face with tears of joy Face with tears of joy Face with tears of joy THE husband beater will be bk with the darkness,” Tina wrote.

The gossip machine is also outraged by those who blame her for such predictions.

They will say its true love nd we are just haters! Face with tears of joy so will the skinny couple! And they will blame you for all their troubles! Wait!” she added.

With no doubt, GodsPlan and Sheilah Gashumba’s relationship is done and dusted. Gods Plan seems to have found his next love as he prepares to parade a new beautiful babe according to our sources.

We will keep you posted.

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Gods Plan parades mysterious woman, could she be Sheilah’s replacement?

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Well, a bitter season could be clocking-in for socialite Sheilah Gashumba that is still skeptical tell if she will stand it.

This follows her lover man, Ali Marcus Lwanga aka Gods Plan showing-off a yet a unidentified woman on his social media but by look of things it could be Sheilah’s perfect replacement.

If you can recall last week, we reported to you how Sheilah and Gods Plan’s relationship had hit a dead end after both them erasing each other’s photos on Instagram.

Supplementary, Sheilah went ahead on social media and revealed her intentions of erasing Gods Plan’s tattoo off her back.

How can one erase a tattoo, any recommendations?” Sheilah wrote.

Gathering more evidence from the self-proclaimed Power couple’s decaying affair, the pencil-thin digital influencer has over the weekend shared her time off moments at Lake Bunyonyi, Kabale together with close friend, Zahara Totto.

Gods Plan also glanced video clip cheerfully taking-off the Europa Semi-finals match with the new babe on Sunday night at Levels Lounge.

Sheilah and Gods Plan started dating in 2018 and their relationship has often been a top notch in the country’s showbiz.

See Gods Plan’s tweets;

https://twitter.com/callmegodsplan/status/1294649361226489863

We will keep you posted.

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Bebe Cool writes heartfelt Birthday message to son Allan Hendrick

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Yesterday 16th August, sensational singer, Bebe Cool’s eldest son Allan Hendrick Ssali’s 25th birthday.

As usual, the father who would taste the essence of his fatherhood must turn back from the plane of his experience, take with him the fruits of his journey and begin again beside his child, marching step by step over the same old road.

Bebe Cool is such a father who is eagerly to shaping son, Allan in a more like his or better path in life it being that they share talent.

It being Allan’s birthday, it would be an outright norm to receive precious gifts from his celebrity father on this day but instead it was reverse as the Gagamel International CEO preferred otherwise.

Bebe Cool took it to his social media and prepared a heart-warming letter to son equipped with crucial words that would aid him raise to success.

Bebe urges son to be as firm as he is in order for him to have a breakthrough.

Allan is cautioned to always be himself, believe in God, respect people and himself, be patient and stay as humble as he is.

Here is Bebe Cool’s message;

Happy birthday my boy, grow up to be as hard as dad coz the world has become hard hence you should in order to break through.

Be yourself, stay who you are, believe in God, respect people and yourself, be patient and always stay as humble as you are coz that’s what is required to achieve the highest heights.

Am proud of you and always praying for you.

I love you my son Allan Hendrick.

Allan is Bebe Cool’s first eldest child, born in the mid 90s during his initial days of his music career.

Its is said Allan is born of a Rwandese woman, one of Bebe’s first girlfriends.

Happy belated Birthday Allan!

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