Not every guy is with you because they love you, some are just there because it’s convenient with you. If you look for warning signs, you can cut his sh*t short and start looking for a guy who might be worth your time.
Here are some signs you’re convenient and will never be a long-term thing.
1. You pay his bills or shower him with gifts, even though you two aren’t really official.
Yes, you need to stop that right now. If you see yourself constantly playing sugar mama to a guy, it’s probably not because he’s broke. It’s probably because he knows he can get freebies for you.
2. When you broach the subject of long-term commitment, he shuts it down.
Does he change the subject when you ask him to move in, spend the night, or pop the question? Has it been so long that people just assume he’s ready to marry you, but he just won’t friggin’ budge? That means that you aren’t the one he wants to marry. He’s just keeping you there until he finds his “one,” or at least another sucker to mooch off of.
3. When he calls you, you always pick up and drop everything you do, because you honestly feel like if you don’t, he’ll just leave.
This is the worst feeling ever! And, sadly, more often than not, people get this feeling when they are an option rather than a priority. If he’s got you jumping through hoops like this, make no mistake about it. He’s probably using you, and no, he doesn’t give a sh*t about you.
4. You feel like you have to convince him to stay with you.
This is one of those few gut feelings that generally signal the end of a relationship, and also suggests that you may need to work on your self-esteem. If this is the vibe you’re getting, it’s time to cut him loose. There’s no way to come back to that and he’s doing nothing but squishing your dignity.
5. He only calls you when he wants something.
Does he only call when he’s horny or when he needs a place to stay for the night? Sorry to break it to you, but you’re just around him because it’s convenient at this point.
6. He doesn’t introduce you to family or friends, and if he does, he won’t bring you as a date for major holidays.
How a guy treats you around his family says volumes about his intentions. If he doesn’t do much in terms of trying to blend your two families together, he’s not looking long-term. Your best bet is to keep other options open.
7. You find yourself doing most of the emotional labor in the relationship.
You’re the one planning dates. You’re the one calling. You’re the one coming up with romantic outings for anniversaries. You’re the one doing every little thing to keep you together. Give yourself a break and find someone who will do that stuff for you.
8. He’s still chatting up other women.
If a guy does this, he just doesn’t give a sh*t about you. He doesn’t even give a sh*t about hurting you. Stop going out with a cheater and start going out with someone who does care.
9. Everything feels like it’s done with an ulterior motive.
The ulterior motive can vary from looking like a good, well-adjusted guy to easy sex, to financial issues. But if you get the feeling you’re being used, chances are that you’re right.
10. He withdraws affection if you don’t do what he wants you to do.
This is a sign that he may actually just be using you and that it’s not even a matter of convenience. Your best bet is to see how he reacts when you ask for something or what will happen if he doesn’t get what he wants.
Source: Davinadiaries.com
