Ending a relationship is tough. However, there often comes a point in the relationship where no matter how hard you try, it’s just not working and the relationship isn’t worth saving. If it’s not worth holding on, you’ll have to figure out a way to gently break the news.
But how do you break things off without doing harm? Here’s how to part ways gracefully.
1. Don’t be a jerk
It might be tempting to try to avoid breaking up with someone by treating them so badly that he or she has to be the one to initiate the break-up. However, this approach is immature. Don’t hurt someone just to let yourself off the hook and come out looking like the “good guy.” Try your best to be civil.
2. Meet in person
You may want to take the easy way out, but that is not the way to handle things. The best way to break it off is face-to-face. Just get over your nerves and bite the bullet. The only time this isn’t recommended is if you’re in a situation where your partner poses a physical threat to you. Breaking up in person will give you time to discuss the reason for the break-up and hopefully help provide some closure. Provided that you are in no immediate danger, it’s best not to break up in a location that is too public, such as a crowded restaurant. Emotions will be running high, so having a meltdown in front of a roomful of strangers will just make the news sting a whole lot more.
3. Don’t let tech do your dirty work
When we say you should break up face-to-face, we don’t mean FaceTime or Skype. Whatever you do, don’t break up with your partner through video chat, social media, or text. This is the worst way you can let someone know you don’t want to be with them.