1. Keep Your Message Short
If your initial message does not attract her interest, she will most likely not read further and even bother to reply.
Therefore, researcher’s advice that you should start with short messages with a catchy subject-line which can be linked to an interest sited on her profile. Always keep the message between 20 and 200 characters.
2. Don’t Start your first Chat with “Hi”, “Hey”, or “Hello”
If you want to appear to any lady online as the most boring, unoriginal gentleman, then initiate a chat with “Hi, how are you?” and you may likely not get a reply. This is because even though it may seem like a polite initial message, she will probably click next message in her inbox in search for the one message that will attract her attention. To be modern, try “what up?” and add joke or a question about something she has stated on her profile.
3. Never start your chat with short-cuts words like as “Ur”, “Luv”, “Wat”
Online studies have shown that short-cuts words like “Ur realy hot” “R U free Fri?” will not work with most ladies, especially the first time!
Ladies prefer the use of proper punctuation in a first chat because they see them as sexy and it demonstrate to her that you are somewhat literate. However, the only exceptions to this rule are the use of “haha” and “lol” during continued chats with the lady.
4. You can Catch Her Off Guard with a Joke
Per many studies, if you make a lady laugh, most of the hard work is done. Starting with a simple, uncommon but very funny joke and not finishing the punchline arouses her curiosity.
She will probably try to complete the joke for you or she will be confused and ask “What..” which is always better than complete silence.
Remember, this trick maybe difficult to pull off but trust us, it works if you do it right.
5. Try Mentioning Something Specific from Her Profile
If you look at her profile, find something that makes her stand out, and bring that up in your initial chat. Online studies have discovered that “favorite movies”, “music”, and even “food” are some of the most effective words to use, and the best phrases to use with these words are “you mention”, “good taste”, and “noticed that”. You can complement something with her profile.
6. You can Mirror Her Personality
Again, some studies have proven that singles generally like fellow singles who share the same interest. Therefore, you can use what you have learned from her profile to determine what you are going to say and how you are going to say it.
For instance, if you observe from her profile that she is funny, then use a funny opener. Likewise, if you observe she might be straightforward, just be straightforward. Hope you get the idea.
7. You can Talk About Your Common Interests
If you study the profile of a lady and you see something in common with your interest, initiate a chat with her otherwise you would have wasted a big opportunity.
Talking about similar interests can prompt a quick response from her. This allows her to lower her guard and be more trusting of your intentions.