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  • 5 Signs That Your Partner Doesn’t Respect You

    / September 12, 2017

    Just like trust, loyalty, and faithfulness, respect is of the utmost importance; without it, any relationship is bound to fail. If you often find yourself questioning whether your partner truly respects you, it’s time to take a long, hard look at the nature of your relationship. A lack of respect, whether it be blatant, condescending, rude, or otherwise, means there’s an imbalance of power, which is why it’s so important to recognize the signs of disrespect early on.

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    If any of these five signs sound familiar, your partner isn’t giving you the respect you deserve.

    1. Your partner shows up unannounced

    Surprising you with flowers on a random Wednesday is a welcome treat; showing up unannounced when you’re clearly busy or have a lot going on is not. If you find your partner repeatedly popping up at inopportune times or at inconvenient places, there’s a problem. As mentioned by The Frisky, if he or she shows up at your work, class, or home unannounced and uninvited, causing a scene, they don’t respect you.

    2. Your partner uses gaslighting techniques

    If you often find your partner using sneaky techniques to keep you in check, he or she doesn’t respect you. According to YourTango, “Gaslighting is a phrase assigned to an emotional abuse technique that has one partner convincing the other that reality is an illusion. If your partner is denying they said and did things or blaming you for saying and doing things you didn’t, it’s abusive.”

    Dealing with a person like this is infuriating. If this is your partner’s norm, it’s likely it will never change.

    3. Your partner treats sex as a transaction

    Any time a person expects sex in exchange for something, the most basic form of respect is tossed out the window.

    If your partner does the chores, is it your job to owe them a sexual favor? No. Sadly, though, not everyone takes the same stance on the issue. Case in point — this article from CafeMom calls out Pat Robertson, host of a call-in show, who has claimed that wives should thank their husbands with sex each time they do chores around the house. No, just no.

    4. Your partner isn’t proud of you

    Just as you’ve strived for your parents’ approval throughout your life, seeking those heavily-weighted words of acceptance, you want the same from your partner. To hear “I’m proud of you” from someone you respect is a big deal, and it’s important that both partners take pride in the relationship.

    When your partner is proud of you, and proud to be with you, Bustle says, there’s a mutual respect for one another. Without a partner who’s genuinely proud of you, your accomplishments, and your overall contributions to the relationship, they clearly don’t realize or value your worth, and you shouldn’t stand for that. Ever.

    5. Your partner refuses to compromise or negotiate

    It’s only natural the person closest to you will get under your skin, and part of a relationship is being able to discuss life’s major challenges as a team. But when one person in a relationship isn’t willing to act as a team, there are bound to be long-term issues. A big part of respecting someone is being able to reach a compromise in which both parties are satisfied with the outcome.

    Source: Cheatsheet.com





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